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Conversation between a guy and a gal about 'A Tomboy's Guide'

Over dinner, a conversation between a guy and a gal about "A Tomboy's Guide To Knowing, Loving And Understandig Men," broke out. (www.cmwriter.com/books)
Gal: This is the first time that I've read a book by a woman that bashes women.
Guy: It doesn't bash women. I think it just gives the other perspective. It was pretty fair on both sides.
Gal: I can see that, but the critiques on women were pretty harsh. 
Guy: It probably seems that way because every other writer always tries to make women seem like victims instead of equally responsible for what happens in relationships. 
CM Writer chiming in: I feel like a lot of people playing the "relationship guru" role are very patronizing and talk down to their audience, mainly women, as though being a man makes them the holder of every answer when it comes to relationships. The truth is...there is never one right answer, and people are hardly ever truthful about their own experiences.  I don't personally believe…

Guy Secrets: He can cheat and love you

Guy Secrets: He can cheat and love you at the same time. It may seem wrong or like a lie, but it is actually true. The secret lies in how he defines love, and how you define respect.

 I know you've heard it all before and you're probably rolling your eyes at someone else saying it for the millionth time...just bear with me.
This doesn't give a guy an excuse to cheat. It just explains how some do it with a clear conscience. In my line of work (family law, relationship writing), I have come across a number of (male) cheaters who easily rationalize their cheating. 
This goes back to dudes being able to compartmentalize...separating emotional love from certain self-absorbed actions. it seemed like guys who are older cheated because they grew up within the scope of men having more than one woman and that being okay and even expected.
There was the woman whom a man married and created a family with...the one who "tamed the beast," so to speak. Then there was the wild …

Dean Smith: More than a coach

Dean Smith was more than a coach, and his legacy proves that in ways immeasurable. Coach Smith passed away on Saturday night, with the world and our Tar Heel family learning of his transition on Sunday.

Growing up in North Carolina, I was an avid fan of the game of basketball, and at the same time, I knew I wanted to become a Civil Rights attorney. 

The Tar Heels became my número uno team as a kid in the 80s. And I fell hard for Dean Smith. No no no...not in a kiddie crush way, but in a way of admiration. I would watch his games and marvel at how much he reminded me of my elementary basketball coach, Coach Ed. 
Coach Ed would never yell at us, he could just give us this look of disappointment or frustration and we would straighten up. He was quite like a loving parent in how he coached us. 
I saw that in Coach Smith's approach, from as much as I could witness watching on TV. I always wanted to know more about him, so I would read old newspaper clippings at the library on this thi…