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Beyonce and Jay Z celebrate pregnancy

Beyonce showing off her baby bump Last night the MTv Video Music Awards popped off.  But seriously the only thing I missed by not watching was the celebration of family.  As you can see from the above picture, Mrs. Carter is carrying a little Jay Z or Beyonce in her belly.  And she looks thrilled. I'm neither a Jay or Bey fan, but I will say that the look on his face at the end of the below performance is something that is beautiful and should be praised.  It is the look of a man thrilled to have a baby on the way.  All too often we hear about dead beat dads and men running away from their responsibilities, and yadda yadda. But the truth is, some guys cannot wait to be parents.  They dream about it.  They make plans as to what they will do with their sons and daughters.  And that is a beautiful thing.  Also to be celebrated is two career people, who are at the top of their games, giving time to create a family.  It can be done.  You can have it all. And family is the ult

#22 What he said: A conversation with my guy friend.

Today's guy: Churchboy from Power 98 How long I've known him:   I used to listen to Churchboy on the radio when he first came to Power 98 back in the day.  I met Church and the rest of the No Limit Larry and the Morning Maddhouse show about a year ago, at a fan meet and greet.  Then again at a fundraiser for the Center of Hope.  Later they were kind enough to invite me on as a guest.  And with the assistance of bribery by way of Panera cinnamon crunch bagels, they allow me to come through on occasion. LOL Topic :  Dating single parents. This topic is a follow up of sorts to a Battle of the sexes topic from the morning show, some time ago. (Listen to it here .)  I think it was the first time I was on the show.  And we discussed the subject of dating single parents.  I brought my list of pros and cons out. (I was serious about that thang! LOL)  My point was basically: Are you prepared for the package deal? The mother/father, the child, and the child's other parent

How wealthy people, like Kim Kardashian, stay wealthy

Kim Kardashian and her husband Khris Humphries Meanwhile you're trying to keep up with the Kardashians...and the Joneses and the Bushes and Obamas...they keep all of their loot.  And get paid for spending the loot of others! Check out the break down of how much Kimmy K made off her wedding from (taken from ):

Stop pulling the race card

David & Iman Bowie, Heidi Klum and Seal Look.  We get it. You can date whomever you choose. It makes sense.  Loving vs. Virginia was resolved many decades ago.  Therefore it is quite unnecessary for you to continuously:

Detective Gary McFadden, a shining example of manhood

Photo from the Charlotte Observer Detective Gary McFadden and bride Angela Ray In a story posted on Charlotte Observer's website a little over a week ago, a message of integrity, compassion and manhood was revealed.  It all arose out of tragedy. In 1997, Angela Ray was 7 and her father was murdered.  According to the article, Andrew Ray was working a job to help pay for Angela's brother's college tuition.  Detective McFadden investigated the crime and when he met little Angela he formed a bond.  He stood in the gap for her father. Flash forward.  In the picture above, Detective McFadden, along with Angela's brother, gave her away on her wedding day. Read the article by By Cleve R. Wootson, Jr. and Gary L. Wright.  "CMPD detective kept his promise to homicide victim's daughter." Read more: knilxino

The U made a deal with the devil, now it's time to pay up?

Photo from Yahoo Sports  Nevin Shapiro with Kellen Winslow, Jr. Money!  Power! Influence! Poppin Bottles!  Cars!  Hookers!  Ponzi Schemes!  "Renegade Booster"! The U! Nope, this is not 1989...

Male perspective on Basketball Wives

 Suzie, Royce, Tami, Shaunie, Evelyn, Jennifer, Meeka (l-r) If y'all don't realize by now. Men watch Basketball Wives, just like we do.  Some initially deny it, but then you might catch them saying something about one of the chicks and you're like wait a minute...Ummm... Well anyway, I had a conversation today that was so hilarious to me.  Be mindful that these thoughts are not necessarily the views, thoughts, or opinions of the Creator of this blog.  (But I do feel him on a lot of what he Anywho, this is what the gentleman had to say about the show! (check out what he had to say after the jump!)

Who in the heck left the gate open?!

Ok so the actual saying is Who in the H E double hockey sticks left the gate open...and that's exactly what I thought when I read this head line: R&B singer tasers pastor during church knife fight (check out what happened when the M.O.M. (minister of music) told the pastor he better have his $$$ below)

Bobbi Brown Pretty Powerful Face contest

Cosmetics maven, Bobbi Brown has a contest called Pretty Powerful Faces that I entered the other day.  In the contest, you're asked to give one word to describe you and the explain why.  (I ask that you will do me the greatest favor of voting for me daily here: )

#21 What he said: A conversation with my guy friend

Ok you guys, I'm back with the conversations.  Now I'm going to do as many via video as I can.  So if you have any guys in the NC area, who would be good for a topic, let me know! Today's Guy: D. Lee How I know him: Our mutual friend suggested we talk about an issue D. Lee was having.  He introduced us at church. Topic:   The dreaded FRIEND ZONE So D. Lee and I discussed the friend zone.  Do you feel that the "friend zone" is the place potentially good mates go to fizzle out?  How often have you placed a guy in the "friend zone" because you just didn't feel a "spark" or "chemistry"? Guys, do you think women miss out on good potential mates by placing guys into the friend zone? Or is the friend zone not so bad after all?  Is it not better to be friends with your mate first?  Or is the friend zone totally different than being friends leading to mates?

I don't wanna be a player no more...

 Dating has always been a game for me.  Now, I'm done playing around.  First let me shout out a couple of folks who are responsible for this blog... Shana, Tamara, Noa, Shelton, Marcus C, Maya, Syreeta... Yes, I'm finally hanging it up and getting serious about my OWN relationships...As serious as I am about the relationships of others. Of course there are deeper reasons why I have been anti-relationships for MYSELF...but I will not get all into that in this blog... y'all remember that song by Big Pun featuring Joe?  Well there is a deeper meaning in it for me, and for some people like me. Hold on.  Let me explain. In my book, 100 Common Sense Dating Tips, there is a quote that says something to the effect of, when playing games there is always a winner and a loser.  Meaning as long as you're out here playing around, someone will lose and someone will win.  You may not be the winner all the time.  When both people are serious about dating/relatio

Bojangles, bologna, and other bizarre food funnies

I know the economy is rough...but THIS??? By now, y'all know I'm a southern gurl.  I speak with a lovely deep voiced  I use words that seem a little like broken English.  And that's okay.  And yes, I have had a fried bologna and cheese sandwich more than a few times in my life.  (Cut on the sides, or with a slit in the middle so it doesn't bubble up...) But this right here?! Bojangles selling bologna and cheese biscuits?!  I ain't eva seen nothin like this before in my life! I'm usually sleep deprived, so when I pulled into the drive through for a quick breakfast bite last week, I thought I was seeing things.  So I pulled out my blurry phone cam and took a picture of this sign.  When the lady at the call box actually ASKED ME IF I WANTED A BOLOGNA AND CHEESE BISCUIT...I felt equally confused, defensive and kinda disgusted at the same time?  I don't know why... But it just wasn't right.  And why would you think I personally... wo


I love expression.  I love words.  I love music.  I love dance. I love art. I love these things because I believe strongly in the power of communication/expression.  In 100 Common Sense Dating Tips , I suggest that people try something new.  This includes new forms of expression.  In the video above the music and the dance marry two new, but very old things.  It is contemporary.  But music and body movement are antiques. Dance is as old as ancient African civilizations.  Body movements have been used to tell stories in Choctaw and other native tribes.  The rhythm of the dance reveals intense emotions and it is beautiful.  Dance is a language.  From breaking to stepping to ballet to line dancing, the rhythm moves from the mind through the body to the eyes and ears of those watching. Do you see the intensity in the relationship between the two dancers?  You can see a lot in their body language (Ha! Body speaks to you...). Women often have a warra

Solving problems in long form

Understanding people can be as difficult as solving  complex equations. Growing up, I was a bit of a nerd.  I mean, no one dared call me that to my face, I was still quite athletic and quick with the hands.  Anyway, I excelled at some odd subjects "for a girl", Math and Science.  I could often solve long math problems in my head.  (I still do this when shopping with my sister and mama! ha! I can tell you how much you will pay with whatever % off within a few seconds...) (Keep reading for the story of former Louisville stand out and NBA player, Clifford Rozier)

"I want a man with a plan, not a boy with a toy."

Do you even know what you want in a relationship? Oh the cliches!! I've heard this particular one (I need a man with a plan, not a boy with a toy.) since like 1986, when I used to watch 227 as an elementary school student. LOL (read more after the jump!)