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#3 What he said: A conversation with my guy friend, Garon

#3 What he said: A conversation with my guy friend, Garon, looks at the male psyche of a young educator regarding dating in a "Hip Hop Society." 

Name: Garon Morman aka @KinGee7
Occupation: 26 year old NC A&T alum, middle school teacher, coach and grad student
How I know him: He followed me on Twitter
What we talked about: "Dating in a Hip Hop Society" the video you see below:

Which costume describes your dating personality?

Ok ladies.  This is just for fun.  And gents you can chime in too.  Ladies, which costume best describes you in the dating/relationship world.  Or are you a combination of a few?  Guys, which costumes do you prefer in a lady?

The Nun: You are practical and devout.  Loyal to no end. You are mature and modest in every aspect of your relationship. For you, your guy comes second only to the man upstairs.  You may be a little prudish at times, but once he passes the test, he'll see what lies beneath the robe.

The Devil:  Fiesty and sneaky.  You look to lure your prey in with tricks and appeals to their temptations.  You are alluring and you use your sex appeal as a weapon.  When he falls out of line, you whip him back into shape. Your first thoughts are your pleasure, he is there to serve you.

The Alluring Angel:  You are sweet and attractive.  You know how to catch a man's eye, and you want to keep his heart.  Your thoughts and your love are pure.  You're a nurturer, so you desi…

To Abstain or Not to Abstain: That is the question.

Courtney Vance and Angela Basset Married October 12, 1997
after being celibate for over a year.  Years ago there was a situation where I met this guy who apparently had an off again on again relationship with this lady. I had no idea she existed until she contacted me one day. What happened from there was a little crazy.  However, it lends to a point I'm about to make.  Some things she told me, that I didn't actually tell him at the time, made me a little sad for her. (Now that I think about it, I don't think I ever told him...welp...he's about to read it now...).

She thought I was "cheating" with him, but the truth is we had hung out a few times, initially, but when he found out I wasn't going to give up the goodies, we became friends.  No big deal.  (He's still one of my closest friends.).   He felt like sex was an integral and necessary part of a casual dating relationship.  I didn't. I respected his opinion and position, and he respecte…

The AUDACITY of men and their double standards...

There are some men out in the dating world who believe women have to bow down to their wishes and whims.  Apparently men have the upperhand because they are outnumbered.  In fact, because they are outnumbered women should always anticipate being left for someone who looks better, sexes better, shuts up and takes it like a woman or be left alone.

Before you try to call me a man basher...I'm far from it.  I am just pulling your card. YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE...

Women should always be aware of what type of man they are dealing with.  Not all men are as selfish or immature.

Oh...but when you find the one who is...RUN...RUN FAST AND RUN HARD.

Let me give you some examples.

1. Men who think they can be all out of shape, breathing all heavy, with dunlap syndrome and greasy, but BELIEVE wholeheartedly that they can be "big and sexy"...YET they think they should have a video model/athletic/beauty queen woman.
ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!!! Push your fat nasty behind back away from the pork c…

#2 What he said: A conversation with my guy friend, William

#2 What he said: A conversation with my guy friend, William, looks at the male psyche of a celebrity clothier regarding how men and women communicate, or don't.

Today's Guy: William
How do I know him?:  Interviewed him for an article.
Occupation: He IS a Brand. Check out William Wilson Clothing online.

I interviewed William Wilson this past week.  We talked about so many different things, but the topic of male-female communication was quite entertaining.

CW: Do you think miscommunication is what causes problems in relationships?

WW: Well I think lack of communication and overcommunication with other people is what causes the problems.  With men, we're not complicated. As children, men are taught to do two things primarily: Conquer and Solve problems. As men we want the magazine article you want to give us the novel. Let me ask the questions I need to give you the information that's necessary.

CW:  See as women we have to get the story out. It is kinda…

Black Men and Black Women: When did we become enemies?

I learned about this couple a few years ago.  They are from Craven County, North Carolina.  I fell in love with their love story and later wrote about it.  You can read the article here.  There was a time when Black men and women had the highest marriage rate out of all races in this country.  There are several reasons as to why marriage has become an endangered species in our community that come from outside sources.

However, these days the internal source is the most disturbing.  All you hear now is how horrible sistas are and how brothas ain't ish.  And this is all coming from brothas and sistas.  Do we really hate each other?

Ladies, do you ask for too much and accept too little?

I AM GUILTY.  Yes, you can convict me, sentence me, lock me up and throw away the key.  I am one of those women with astronomical standards. Now in my mind, I didn't think they were astronomical.  I fervently believed that there was nothing wrong with wanting...

A 6'2" to 6'5
Country boy
With the body of an athlete
The mind of a scholar
With no children
Who knows politics
Knows and has a devout relationship with God
Has street knowledge, but mansion manners
A sense of humor like Dave Chapelle (the list continues after the jump)

How do you make him say "I do"?! Inquiring ladies want to know

Look here! There are women running around here like ticking time bombs.  Their eggs are spoiling and they are tired of trying to hold together twenty year old bodies ten and fifteen years post twenty.  They want and need a man, not now, but RIGHT NOW!  Did y'all hear that? just combusted!!

And fellas... ya'll are up here just playing around.  Lollygagging like it is cute to have a 70 year old daddy when you're 10.  Well, I've seen it. And it isn't.  How many times will your child have to hear, "oh is that your granddaddy? He looks good for his age."
So C'mon fellas... What's a girl gotta do to get you down the aisle?  What will it take to get you to proudly say those two little words... "I'm hers!" ummm I mean "I do"?  A very nice lady asked me one day, "What's the secret to getting a man to marry you?"
Well, lets go to the source... gents...speak now or forever hold your peace. (keep reading)

Black Men: Why I love them so much.

People throw the statistics out all the time about Black women being single and why we should date out.  If that is what you want as a woman, do what is best for you.  If you are attracted to our brethren of another motherland, go for it.  I just implore you to not tear our brothas down when you do so.

#1 What he said: A conversation with my guy friend

Your Boyfriend's Best Girlfriend will bring you "What he said: A conversation with my guy friend."  The topics may vary, there will be different guys, but the convos will always be enlightening and hilarious. We will dig deeply into the male psyche to see what men really think about relationships. 

What he said: A conversation with my guy friend, Noa looks at the male psyche of a Hollywood actor who has appeared in a couple of commercials, a movie, 1000 Ways to Die, and a pilot show that may soon be on a TV near you. He talks about the double standard between men and women as it relates to sex and the number of sex partners one has had.

Today's guy: The Actor
How long we've been friends: Since 1999-2000
Occupation:  Actor

The Question: Should it matter to you how many partners your mate had prior to you?

Me: So I asked everybody on twitter and in texts the above question.  What do you have to say?
Him:  Meh! Can't turn a hoe into a housewife, so maybe.

Me:  Ha! You …