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Do not blow the dating budget

You meet this really dope guy and hit it off. Unbeknownst to you, he has a secret. That secret will impact your dating life. 
No, he is not married with five children. He doesn't have a criminal record. There are no salacious shenanighans in his dating portfolio.  The secret is...
He has a dating budget. 
Yep. A dating budget and that budget is a whopping one-hunnid-and-fiddy-dollars. A buck fifty. 150.00. He doesn't mind paying for dates, but the number of dates you two will go on depends on how much you spend. 
The one hundred and fifty dollars is the amount of money he will spend on you. It does not include what he will spend on himself on these dates. How many times would you be able to go out with this guy without blowing the budget? What kind of dates would you go on?
If you had to craft a serious of dates with a budget of $150.00 total, what would you do? 
I know a guy who dates this way, and I think it's actually wise. Dating to find love can cost a pretty penny, …

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