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Husband material

Husband material... It was something my college friends labeled my college boyfriend. They would say, "Girl he is husband material, you'd better hold onto him," as I looked at them dumbfounded. What made him "husband material," exactly?

As a matter of fact, what is "husband material" anyway? What does that even mean? The way I figure it, being husband material requires more than great physical attributes, though those don't hurt. It means someone who can actually sustain a healthy relationship. It is more than going to church every Sunday, paying tithes and being on active duty in church ministry, though many a church girl swoons over such actions.



Good decision-maker
To be husband material, a man has to have a track record of making good decisions that far outnumber his bad decisions. I mean, we all make mistakes, but multiple "mistakes" are not mistakes at all, they are more like habits. Furthermore, to meet husband material criteria, a…
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His image in his daughter's eyes

His daughter was born. The image he had of himself began to fall away, being replaced by the image she had of him. Were his actions meeting her standards? Probably not. Did his decisions change the way she saw him? Probably.

What's a daddy to a little girl? A superhero. Her first love. The strongest man in the world. The lens through which she sees all men.

But what becomes of him in her eyes, when his actions seem more like a villain?

I am a fan of storytelling and poetry. As Tupac once said (paraphrasing), Rap is merely poetry set to a beat...without the beat, the poetry would still be there... It just seems that these days, the poetry and storytelling are gone and without the beat, there would be nothing.

The other day, I listened to Kill Jay-Z, on Shawn Carter's latest album: "4:44". Carter said he began writing it when he was snapped out of sleep at 4:44 a.m.  I have had those kinds of wakeful moments in the middle of the night, so I understand.

In Kill Jay-Z, …

Hoop Dreams: Grandpa wants to join the NBA

Calvin Roberts is angling to make the G-League (formerly known as the D-League), NBA developmental league. Roberts is 61-years-old. From Fox News:
Roberts was drafted in the 4th round, 83rd overall by San Antonio in the 1980 NBA Draft. During that summer, he spent time with the Spurs, Clippers and Hawks, but failed to crack any regular season roster.



Not to date myself, but I was in diapers when Roberts was drafted and ended up playing overseas...now, I am just a couple years younger than Vince Carter, the oldest current player in the NBA. Carter recently said he's, "open"to joining the Golden State Warriors.


NBA Basketball is like a drug. Out of all other sports, I swear basketball is the one where every player still feels like he has something left in the tank and either can make it to the league for the first time, or make it back into the league. Just the other day, I was listening to local sports radio, when former NBA player Stephen Jackson was on promoting the Big…

Keeping tabs: Concern, Suspicion, or Crazy?

A few years ago, I wrote this post about keeping tabs on your significant other. A couple of days ago, a gentleman posted a comment to the post that recieved interesting feedback. 
How do you view "checking in" with your significant other? Is checking in a good or bad thing? #relationships #dating #blog #ontheblog #datingadvice #issues A post shared by YBBGBlog (@ybbg_blog) on Jun 27, 2017 at 6:54am PDT
In light of this comment, how do people view checking in with or on their significant other?

"Depends if they are married. Or if they are exclusively dating. Or if they are just casual acquaintances. If they normally communicate a few times throughout the day. Then I can see his point and his concern."-CC, gent"Her phone was in the back seat? She took issue with him wanting to know what she was doing? Hmm......I would need more details about this because I got more questions than answers."-L.W., gent "It really boils down to the nature of the relations…

Curving or playing hard to get?

You meet someone... attractive, seemingly interesting and available. Everything is cool. You exchange numbers...and then the games begin.

The games...Who should call whom first? How long do you wait between number exchange and using the number? Is sending a text appropriate? How many texts are too many? What time do you call? What if you call and the other person does not answer? Should you immediately answer? What happens if you always answer? Do you seem too available? Are you not available enough? So on and so forth.

Within a couple of weeks of each other, two of my best guy friends hit me up to talk about the obstacles they face when first getting to know women these days.

Obstacle 1: The real you

He said: I woke up and did not know who I was lying beside. 

He also said: I had to let her go...my dry cleaning bill was becoming too expensive and I had to keep buying new shirts.

Keep in mind he's an undiscovered comedian...but my one good friend tells me these stories about meeting …