What men have taught me about relationships



By now you should get it. I am a tomboy at heart. I grew up around men who I love dearly. The men in my family surrounded me with nothing but love. (And jokes...sports...and magic shows). My homeboys strongly influence how I view men in general. To this end, almost everything you get from me about men will be positive.

A huge thing I have received from the men in my life is how I view relationships. Quite honestly, almost everything I have learned about male-female relationships came from my guys. So let me tell you some of what men have taught me about relationships:


  • Always know what you want and when you're ready to have it.
There has never been a time in my life where I didn't know what I wanted. Most times I just knew I wasn't ready to have it. I also know this is okay. It's better to have a solid grasp on what you want and on the reality that you're not in a place to have and maintain it than to jump into something unprepared to keep it. 

  • You have options.
There is no "last person on earth" scenario when you have options. And everyone has options. You really do not have to take mess from anybody. Why would you, when you can find better treatment elsewhere? You take mess because you choose to accept mess. When a person knows you have options they will think twice about bringing you mess. 

  • You can be selfish.
Self preservation. It is okay to keep some of you for you. You do not have to neglect yourself for other people. When you take care of yourself first you will be better for everyone else around you.

  • Talk is cheap.
Some stuff just ain't worth talking about. You can spend hours on end talking or hours on end doing. Doing is better. 

  • Take chances.
You should go after what you want. You won't always get it, but sometimes you will. If you never take a chance, you will never know. 

  • You don't have to be perfect as long as someone thinks you are.
Perfection is impossible. There are people who will look at you as though you are perfect even in all of your imperfections. 

  • It's okay to mess up.
You will never do everything right and sometimes you will do stuff really really wrong. Somebody will forgive you even if that somebody is just you. So don't fear messing up...you can start over. 

  • You do not have to like everybody.
You like what you like and who you like. No one can take that from you. Everybody ain't for everybody. So be with who you want to be with, not who everyone else wants for you. 

  • Men will show their love.
A man will go out of his way to prove his love to the woman he loves and his indifference to the woman he's just entertaining. 


There is so much more...but I will save that for later...




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