Issa vs Tasha: The paradox of shooting your shot

Tasha helping Lawrence through his bummy situation.

Have you gotten into Insecure on HBO? I love the show, and we are now into season two. The first season was only eight episodes, thirty minutes each, so if you have not yet seen it, you can catch up really quickly.

I won't go too deeply into the plot. But here it is in a nutshell: In season one, Cali gal Issa is experiencing a lag in life and the dread that comes before hitting the big 3-0. She's in the space in life where you're still trying to figure life out and make a come back from the mistakes of your twenties...all in the few months you have before reaching age 30.

One of the plot conflicts of season two:

Issa is the ex-girlfriend of Lawrence. Tasha is the current friend with benefits of Lawrence. Lawrence is this dude who just became employed after two years of living off of Issa. Now, I don't know what their relationship was like pre-funk. Lawrence found himself in a funk while trying to develop some app that did not take off and not wanting to work... he then fell into some kind of depression...wasn't even washing his funky tail on a regular basis.

Issa cheated on Lawrence. Lawrence left and fell into a situationship with Tasha. While situating with Tasha, Lawrence dipped back for a hot second and fell into a smash and dash with Issa. Issa and Tasha both want Lawrence.

There has been an uprising of a #LawrenceHive and an #IssaHive and Tasha Haters Anonymous (or the Tasha Victimhood Society). Episode 2 of season 2 aired last Sunday and it was titled: Hella Questions

And I have some questions...

My first question is: WHY is Tasha so polarizing?

#LawrenceHive are all cheering for Tasha... but she wasn't with him shooting in the gym. #Insecure #Issa #InsecureHBO

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Tasha has been labeled "the clean up woman," "a side chick," "a schemer," etc. And for what? She merely saw a man she was interested in, decided to shoot her shot and got with him when he was single.

If we are honest, as women, men come at us single or not all the time and no one bats an eye.

Why is this an issue when women do it? So what Lawrence had a girlfriend? Tasha backed off when she found out. But when he was single, she was on it. Big deal.

If we are honest, as women, men come at us single or not all the time and no one bats an eye. As long as they fall back when they discover our relationship statuses, no harm, no foul, right? So, what did Tasha do that was so wrong?

Folks out here talking about Tasha like she's Cousin Faith from Soul Food. No one said a word when Daniel shot his shot at Issa...and he didn't stop until he got what he wanted on a couch...why is Issa always getting got on couches?

I mean, if you find what you want in a person, are there rules to shooting your shot? Are there any rules? Leave your rules in the comments.

My next question: How does Issa get so much sympathy?

Is it okay for a woman to cheat because she's unfilled or in a dead end relationship, and to accept any shots shooting in her direction if her man isn't up to par?

Daniel has his stuff together. Is he the hero to
Lawrence's zero?

Issa cheated on Lawrence with Daniel. Why do her reasons for cheating matter? She cheated. No one cares when dudes cheat, no matter their reasons, so why do we care about Issa's reasons? If she didn't want Lawrence anymore, couldn't she have broken up with him and then opened herself up to Daniel's shot shooting?

Or...is it okay for a woman to cheat because she's unfilled or in a dead end relationship, and to accept any shots shooting in her direction if her man isn't up to par? Can women entertain "better" options and drop a zero to find a hero without being dragged by society? We encourage this, right?

My final question: WHAT makes Lawrence worthy of either Tasha or Issa?

I don't care how Lawrence Hive feels about this...but Lawrence ain't ish! Lawrence is selfish and bummy. I get it, he's still trying to find himself, but he keeps finding himself between legs without a condom, without a bed (No, his friend Chad's air mattress does not count.) to lay those legs on, and without any care or concern about the hearts and minds attached to those legs.

Lawrence leaned on Issa for financial and emotional support for at least the last two years, and would not get off his rump to shave or shower or shake her down. He gave nothing to their relationship and she accepted it and he accepted her acceptance.

The dude just now got a job, thanks to Tasha "supporting his dreams." He had no get-up and go about himself... and that is not appealing.

Lawrence reminds me of the dudes who complain about a woman not accepting his worst. Why should she...when all you have to give is worst? If a dude refuses to raise himself up to give his best...he is not worth shooting your shot at...and darn sure isn't worth fighting with another chick over. I do not know any man worth your time whom will come at you offering nothing and actually respect you for accepting it. Men who see you as on the level will level up to get and keep you.

Lawrence keeps doing the bare minimum and repeatedly getting rewarded. Why is anyone shooting her shot at Lawrence? What's the prize if you make it?

What do you think? Leave your comments below!






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