'10 things about the woman I am marrying' viral tweet
Have you seen the viral post where a guy lists the 10 things about the woman he's marrying? The guy is Bob Phondo, and I think he's from Malawi.
I wanna share 10 things about this woman before we wed this weekend;— BOB PHONDO (@BobPhondo) July 8, 2019
1. When I met her I had no place to stay. I was sleeping on a couch at a friend’s house. And she knew.
2. I found a place later on, and she helped paying my rent for months
3. She got me my first car ever. pic.twitter.com/YYKKTNUZgn
4. My laptop got damaged and I needed it so much at the time so I could work on my things in order to earn something. She gave me hers. 5. She covered most costs for our dates for a year. 6. She invested in our first two businesses together. And opted for me to run them full time
7. I never met her mom until when I brought my family to meet hers 8. She celebrated and congratulated me for any penny I made at the time, even when it was as little as $10 9. She supported everything I was trying to do to make ends meet. Whether it earned us money or not.
10. Though I’m very stable and all that now, I know she doesn’t really care about those things. She cares about me solely. I know she’d give me anything in the world if she had to,coz she has proved it over and over again
People on social media have called Bob everything, but a child of God. LOL. He's been every "bum," "hobosexual," "gold digger" and "f-boy." Before I chimed in too harshly, I wanted to know more about the situation.
After a little snooping, I discovered that his bride to be is a singer from Malawi, who had a son before they got together. She's only 24, and I would imagine Bob is just as young. They became a couple a little less than two years ago, and are set to marry this Saturday.
I believe Bob was attempting to articulate his adoration for his fiancee via tweet but did not articulate it well at all. His version of "10 things" was very self-serving and self-absorbed. Those "10 things" were not about his fiancee and her amazing qualities, but about what she did for him, not who she was to him.
After poking my nose into his fiancee's social media, Bob does not seem like a terrible guy. His fiancee spoke very highly of him. She spoke of how he accepted her flaws and all, made her feel safe, was flexible and adjusted to whatever came their way and loved her son.
Unfortunately, Bob's attempt at adulation fell flat. So Twitter did what Twitter does: Dragged the life out of him.
This is an entire case study for women marrying down. What are the benefits, of this union, for her? Seems hella stressful.— well... actually (@HavanaBrown508) July 8, 2019
She’s adopting you, not marrying you. 😂— Miranda San Francsico (@NotoriousTLT) July 8, 2019
She married a hobosexual— Henny Guerrero (@NotAustinbelike) July 8, 2019
Seeing as this couple is very young, I do not see value in judging Bob in such a negative way, as some. I think Bob could have summed up his attempt at praising his bride to be in five easy points.
- When I had nothing, she saw the greater in me.
- She is one of the most supportive people I have ever met.
- Many people complain about a partner not having your back, but my soon-to-be-wife has been my biggest cheerleader.
- She works hard and challenges me to work harder.
- She has seen me through my worst, and now that I am in a better place, I want to create a future for her and for us where the worst is behind us, and greater is ahead.
Hopefully, things will work out for Bob Phondo and his bride. This whole scenario represents an issue that many women have faced in the dating world. If you are successful and come upon a man who is still "struggling," is it worth it to give him a shot? Most of the time, I would say ABSOLUTELY NOT! After a certain age, you should have some semblance of a plan you're working in order to have a stable life. "Struggle love" is understandable in your twenties, but in your thirties and forties...ISSA NO!
I do not believe in going to BUILD A BOO workshop in order to say you have somebody. Being supportive is one thing, being his only means of support is something else altogether. I do not believe in "struggle love," or "dating down." I am a bit traditional. I feel a man should have a level of stability in place before seeking a partner.
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