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Guy Secrets: He treats his friends better than you

I know, the title of this blog post may have caused a screw face with some of you. However...many women often complain about how much time their men spends with friends.

There's a reason for that... If your man spends more time away from you and with his friends... It's because he likes them and feels obligated to you.

That may seem a little crazy, but someone really can love you, but not like you very much. If your relationship is more like a chore than a good time...trust me, your dude will always look for an escape. He will take on more hours at his real job, join an extra rec league, hand out with his boys more, etc.

There is a cure for that, though... If you and your boo have a genuine friendship...enjoy similar activities, can talk and joke with each other, really find joy in each other's personalities...he will actually want to spend time with you.

More than that, when a dude considers you a friend, he feels more free and less tied down. Honestly, dudes secretly desire to have a Love and Basketball type relationship... Of course they wouldn't come out and tell you that... Don't get it twisted, he still wants you to be pretty and smell good, but he definitely wants you to be the type he can kick it with without worrying about whether you're going to whine, complain or punish him.

As much as your mama and 'nem have you thinking you have to treat a man like a child, that's the quickest way to lose what you got or make your relationship miserable.

A guy will do all kinds of things for his friend and often without having to be asked twice.


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