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Jumping the Broom, good friends, family secrets and keeping the cookie!

This was the weekend for wedding movies.  And why not? It is wedding season.  Again, I won't do a complete review of this movie here, I'll do it for my column.  

But the movie just brought me to the ideas of how your friends are there for you through troubling times as well as celebrations. That is how you know you have a friend.  Friends are thrilled for you when you are happy. And cry with you when you are sad. 

That goes for guys and gals in your life. 

And the biggest benefit of good friends is that they can be a buffer for family.  Let's be real, sometimes blood might be thicker than water, but you can also drown in it!  As much as we love our families they can sometimes take liberties when it comes to our sanity.  Most times they mean no harm and do things thinking (albeit wrongly) that it will save us pain and heartache in the long run.  But truthfully those ugly things are best shared when we can shoulder the burden of it.  The crazy thing is, those ugly things always tend to show up and show out at the most inopportune times. 

Yet and still we survive those things and sometimes the way we survive is finding that amazing mate to help us through.  For many ladies we have fantasies of Prince Charming coming to our rescue to save us from all of the frogs. But will you see him when you run into him?  Or will you just back up and keep going?  How many of you have had that praying moment where you promised God you would stop kissing (or sexing) frogs, if he would just send you that one prince?  Many wouldn't believe the prince was a prince if he came to you willing to wait on your "cookie".  You would swear he was being a keebler elf somewhere else or he wasn't an elf at all, but a "fairy"...if you catch my drift.  Sometimes the good ones really aren't too good to be true.  They are just good for you!

What did you think of the movie?  Do you think you overthink a good guy when he comes your way? Are your friends there for you when you need them or only when it is convenient?


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