Looking in the mirror
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| If you had to look deeply at yourself, what would you see? |
Anyway...this post comes as a result of my listening to old recorded interviews I conducted for this blog. It was a conversation I had with a former NFL player. The reason why I even mentioned his former playing status is because people tend to attach very negative perceptions to athletes when it comes to most anything, especially relationships.
By listening to our convo, I realized how ill-equipped, disconnected and immature....
I WAS when it came to having serious relationships.
Yes, me...not him. This guy wanted a family. His desire was to be a husband and father. Meanwhile, I listened to him and thought how undesirable those things were for me. I even said to this man that being in a long term relationship had never been my desire. I was cool with hanging out, being pseudo-committed, but nothing heavy and no titles. (And no sex!)
For a very long time, I had been a serial non-committer... It was an old habit that I picked up in college, and apparently didn't shake. I had constantly treated men like chapters in a book...no one ever made it to THE END.
I WAS immature when it came to relationships. I still saw dating as entertainment, and relationships as serious business that I wanted no part of.
I realized this, not during the conversation...but now...listening to it. Sometimes you cannot see your own faults because you're so immersed in helping others deal with theirs.
If you stopped analyzing other people...what would you see in yourself?
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