Dating 20s vs 30s: I have changed





A couple of days ago, I wrote the intro to this series of blogs on how things change for you if you're still dating after your 20s.

For some of the people who answered my question about how things have changed, nothing has changed except the technology. 


For others, the main thing that has changed is themselves. That is true for me as well. 

I have grown as a person. In my twenties I was all about me and extremely shallow, to be honest. I didn't look deeply at relationships. I chose guys based solely on how attracted I was to them...and typically on whether they fit a certain look and personality...all of which had nothing to do with sustaining and maintaining a relationship. 

In my twenties, I valued my friendships with guys over my romantic relationships. I treated romantic interests like they were disposable. I did not work on relationships because I didn't have to. In my mind, I could always find another guy if the one I was with no longer met my expectations. 

Something changes when you fall in love. It happened to me...at least. You realize you've developed all kinds of bad habits that work completely against having a healthy relationship. That was my major change when I slipped past 30... I began to refocus my focus, examine my thoughts and decisions, and treat a potential mate with respect and care about his feelings and not just my own. 

What others had to say:

GOT NO TIME FOR FAKE ONES



READY TO MEET AT THE ALTER

WANTING MORE

SLOW DOWN, I just wanna get to know ya 

NEW PRIORITIES



This series will delve deeper into modern dating and how much it has changed for Gen X and Gen Y. A most talked about subject is how social media impacts dating... 


What about you? How have you changed? How has it affected your love life? 



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