Becoming Your Boyfriend's Best Girlfriend



The name of my blog is usually alarming to people.  On last Monday, Money Talk with Atiya Harris interviewed me about my book 100 Common Sense Dating Tips. (Congratulations to all who won a preview copy!)

As is usually the case when people hear the name of my blog, the questions start.  The host said, "I don't know if I want my man having a best girlfriend!" Most often people giggle about the title, and some, like Wendy Raquel Robinson, give me the "WTH do you mean, my boyfriend's best girlfriend?!" LOL

Usually they ask me how did I come up with the name.  Well, as I have blogged before in my earliest blogs, I grew up as a tomboy.  Instead of playing with dolls and playing dress up, I played outside with the fellas.  Got into fights. Bloodied my knees. I was never on the sidelines in P.E. And we just got along. 


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 As I grew older, I maintained friendships with guys, and I talk to them as much as I talk to my gal pals (actually more... Shout out to my pal, Noa who I talk to EVERY SINGLE DAY, and who made his national acting debut in 1000 Ways To Die the other night).  I usually just click with men, off gate.  Nothing nefarious.  We just communicate well.

So the blog resulted from probably hundreds of thousands of conversations I've had with guys over a couple decades.  Last week, a guy asked me how I could tell him anything about what men think because I'm not a man. LOL  And he assumed that men don't tell me the truth anyway, because I'm a woman.  (I laughed at this...oh contraire. They typically tell me more of the truth because I have no dog in their fights LOL. These aren't men I date.)

Besides, I pretty much let the guys tell you themselves.  That's the whole purpose.  I'm more like a conduit.  I get the engery going, make the connections, and the guys express themselves.

The name is also a play on words.  Yes, it describes my friendships with guys, but it is also speaks to a deeper meaning.  How a woman can become the best mate her man has had (and vice versa).  I try to open up the lines of communication so people can actually talk things out.  I was at another radio station earlier this year and a guy said to me, "I got a problem with you! My wife heard you on the radio and now I gotta step up my game! I thought I was doing everything right and then she hears you and gives me a look!" LMBO  I thought that was hilarious.  But honestly I'm all about good, strong relationships where everyone is heard and everyone has his/her needs met.

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