How to get the man you want


  1. Believe he wants you. Knowing you are a nice catch will make him believe it too.  Have some self-confidence.  Be self-assured and you will draw him to you.
  2. Be aggressive. Men are just as self-conscious as we are, if not more.  So if you see a guy who catches your eye, approach him.  For many men it is a turn on.  You get points for putting him on the receiving end of a come on.
  3. Be different.  Unless you were born as part of a twin set, you shouldn't mimic anyone else.  Guys like it when a woman stands out from the crowd.
  4. Be interesting.  Have a life.  You won't have to be up under a guy 24-7 if you have your own things going on.  And men like women who are fun.  If your only passtimes are shopping and eating, you're already in a losing situation.  That means you're eventually going to get large and cost a lot of money. lol
  5. Be trustworthy.  If you creep with him, he thinks you'll creep on him.  So trust and believe it matters if you're a booty call or a side-chick.  And if he can't count on you to be there for him, he won't be there with you. Men want security too.
  6. Be attractive.  Let's be realistic.  Men are visual creatures. So take care of that. You don't have to be glammed up.  Actually men would prefer seeing you look good without all the extras (you know extra hair, make up, padded bras and booty pop panties...). Be real and be real cute. lol  Make sure your hygiene is straight (now I wish I didn't have to tell grown women this, but some of y'all heiffas walk around a lil funky.  Get that checked out, and step up your freshness game.)
  7. Be realistic. Now...not everyone can have a Boris Kodjoe. So be realistic with the guys you're after.  If he's out of your realm of possibilities, don't be disheartened, just go for what's in your grasp.  Now sometimes it may be that he really is within your reach. You can at least make an attempt. Just don't allow rejection to set you back.  EVERYONE gets rejected at some point.  Dust yourself off and keep it movin'.
  8. Be selective.  Now if a dude thinks you're just wanting a man, he isn't going to feel special.  If you want a certain man and he is THAT man, well you've given this guy an ego boost.  So be selective in the guys you choose.  That way when you choose the one you want, he'll know he was top notch in your eyes. (And please don't choose someone who is already with someone else..that's triflin! Don't be triflin!)
  9. Be patient. The truth is, good relationships are a lot of work.  So you have to have the strength and fortitude to work with someone.  Be patient in getting what you want.  However, don't be stupid.  Know what you want and let him know what you want.  If he's working toward giving it to you, then be patient.  If he's only working his lips talking about how someday he will give it to you, work your way back away from him.
  10. Be ready. Get your 'ish together.  Sometimes you ask for something, get it, and then realize it is too much too soon.  Or you don't have yourself together and can't handle it.  So make sure you're prepared for everything that comes with what you're asking for in your dream guy.

Comments

PharaohI said…
Read it and it still have NOTHING to do with neked man lol. You thought i wouldn't read it HA
CM said…
I knew you would read it. He is mentioned in the article! Boris Kodjoe :P
Anonymous said…
But if you go after a guy in the beginning, won't you be going after him the entire relationship?
CM said…
@Anonymous... if a guy goes after you in the beginning of a relationship (whatever that means), does he continue going after you the entire relationship? Once it becomes a relationship, you work together to maintain it, right? If not, then you really aren't in a relationship at all.

Being aggressive means not being afraid to approach a man you are interested in. It doesn't mean trying to convince a man to be with you. Letting him know you're interested is part of being aggressive. Sometimes men are oblivious.

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