You made him CHEAT
The relationship pressure
He told you he wasn't ready for a relationship...but you watched too many Spike Lee movies and had the dude feeling like "she's gotta have it" so i'll give it to her.
You put the full court press on ol' boy and now you're wondering why he dipped back to an ex or two? If a guy tells you something believe him. If he says he isn't ready right now, but he may be ready in the future.
He means he doesn't want to be in a relationship. Stop being hardheaded and listen to the dude. He's just that simple.
Typically women make things more complicated than necessary. If he's hanging out with you, it is because he likes hanging out with you. That doesn't mean he wants to be in a relationship with you or even marry you some day.
Stop filling in what you think are blanks with your hopes, wishes, and dreams. If he says he wants to be in a relationship...he may be telling the truth, or just trying to get you to STHU.
So yeah...if you pressed him into the relationship...You made him cheat.
Childish treatment
Newsflash, men are grown. That means they are capable of making their own decisions. You are not his mother, so stop acting like it. The more you become his mother the less he wants to freak you.
And if he ain't freakin' you, he's gonna want to freak somebody. So he'll be freakin' the next freaky freak that comes along instead of your nagging, ranting behind.
The next time you feel like tearing into your dude and telling him what he ain't gonna do and how he oughta do something...imagine him bustin' down your neighbor, cousin, or best friend. Yeah...that should give you a lil pause.
If you're treating him like another of your children...you made him cheat.
You got too comfortable
Sure you should be able to relax around your man. But come on....he hasn't seen your hair sans rollers or scarf in years. You went from Victoria's Secret to Victor's shorts?
You're passing gas and picking your nose. That is not cute!! On top of that, you look a mess and your breath smells bad. Who wants that? Nobody.
Sure he still tries to convince himself that you are still fly, but you are not! He asks you to doll it up a bit and you pour out a list of every thing he did wrong and how you ain't got time to get your hair done or do your nails because he forgot to take out the trash.... Shhhhh shhhh shhhh.
Get it together! His not taking out the trash doesn't mean you have to run around looking like a raggamuffin...
If you just let yourself go...you made him cheat.
Ok, now truth be told, you can't MAKE anyone do anything. And he cheats because he wants too. BUT, heiffa, you can MAKE him want to cheat. Oh yeah, go ahead and view things as black and white. Yeah, if he cheats he was no good, trifling, S.O.B., yadda yadda yadda.
But honey, sometimes you gotta take the blame for pushing that man on out the door. The next chick is right around the corner waiting for you to push the dude to her.
R. Kelly talked about when a woman's fed up...well I'm telling you when a man's fed up...he just MIGHT find another warm bossom to lay in. So take some pride in yourself and your relationship.
If a man doesn't want to commit to you, stop trying to force him into it only to be disappointed later. If a man isn't getting the job done at home, talk to him like an adult not a five year old. And for heaven sakes...do something with your appearance!
He told you he wasn't ready for a relationship...but you watched too many Spike Lee movies and had the dude feeling like "she's gotta have it" so i'll give it to her.
You put the full court press on ol' boy and now you're wondering why he dipped back to an ex or two? If a guy tells you something believe him. If he says he isn't ready right now, but he may be ready in the future.
He means he doesn't want to be in a relationship. Stop being hardheaded and listen to the dude. He's just that simple.
Typically women make things more complicated than necessary. If he's hanging out with you, it is because he likes hanging out with you. That doesn't mean he wants to be in a relationship with you or even marry you some day.
Stop filling in what you think are blanks with your hopes, wishes, and dreams. If he says he wants to be in a relationship...he may be telling the truth, or just trying to get you to STHU.
So yeah...if you pressed him into the relationship...You made him cheat.
Childish treatment
Newsflash, men are grown. That means they are capable of making their own decisions. You are not his mother, so stop acting like it. The more you become his mother the less he wants to freak you.
And if he ain't freakin' you, he's gonna want to freak somebody. So he'll be freakin' the next freaky freak that comes along instead of your nagging, ranting behind.
The next time you feel like tearing into your dude and telling him what he ain't gonna do and how he oughta do something...imagine him bustin' down your neighbor, cousin, or best friend. Yeah...that should give you a lil pause.
If you're treating him like another of your children...you made him cheat.
You got too comfortable
Sure you should be able to relax around your man. But come on....he hasn't seen your hair sans rollers or scarf in years. You went from Victoria's Secret to Victor's shorts?
You're passing gas and picking your nose. That is not cute!! On top of that, you look a mess and your breath smells bad. Who wants that? Nobody.
Sure he still tries to convince himself that you are still fly, but you are not! He asks you to doll it up a bit and you pour out a list of every thing he did wrong and how you ain't got time to get your hair done or do your nails because he forgot to take out the trash.... Shhhhh shhhh shhhh.
Get it together! His not taking out the trash doesn't mean you have to run around looking like a raggamuffin...
If you just let yourself go...you made him cheat.
Ok, now truth be told, you can't MAKE anyone do anything. And he cheats because he wants too. BUT, heiffa, you can MAKE him want to cheat. Oh yeah, go ahead and view things as black and white. Yeah, if he cheats he was no good, trifling, S.O.B., yadda yadda yadda.
But honey, sometimes you gotta take the blame for pushing that man on out the door. The next chick is right around the corner waiting for you to push the dude to her.
R. Kelly talked about when a woman's fed up...well I'm telling you when a man's fed up...he just MIGHT find another warm bossom to lay in. So take some pride in yourself and your relationship.
If a man doesn't want to commit to you, stop trying to force him into it only to be disappointed later. If a man isn't getting the job done at home, talk to him like an adult not a five year old. And for heaven sakes...do something with your appearance!
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