Why don't you value yourself?

What I hate seeing the most is women who will do anything to get a man. And guys who are about anything really don't want you. That's just being real. You tell a man you'll be his "bust it baby" "lil freak" or that you're "down for whatever", you drop about 50% in the "make her your wife" category for any man who will treat you right.

Or you try to steamroll a man into submission. You're raising all kinds of sand and acting like a bully. So what? You're going to beat him down if he won't be with you? That means you don't think you're worth being with unless it is through force. Why ruin your "diva" by acting a fool?! LOL

That's why you often find yourself wondering why he isn't acting right or why he doesn't want to be with you. Why would he? You give him everything and he gives you nothing. Therefore you have no value. Here's a little well known secret. Men like a challenge. No that doesn't mean being completely unavailable...that will just keep you lonely. It means being just a touch out of his league, or appearing so. It makes him feel that having you means something!

See you've succumbed to the belief that there is a man shortage. Ha! No there isn't. Trifling, no count men just want you to feel that way. Pay them no mind honey. They aren't worth being with anyway. Now, the truth is, there are an array of men available for whatever you want them for. The real problem is, you're just not attracting them.

Any man who wants you, will do every thing necessary to get you. But take a look at yourself and ask "what do I have to offer?". If you feel poorly about yourself and feel like just the mere fact that a man pays you attention is a prize, you need to put in some work on your self-esteem.

Start working on your inner self. Baby don't nobody want to be around misery, desperation, or pitifulness. So whatever it was that hurt you and crushed your spirit, heal it. If you have daddy issues, fix 'em. If you have baggage, drop those bags off. Otherwise you will constantly be in a pathetic cycle.

Men are predators...that's what one of my boys says anyway. And a predator doesn't want a spoiled and tough piece of meat. But if you are fresh and tender...suga he will come running and sniffing around you trying to take a bite! ESPECIALLY if he sees other predators trying to claim you as their own.

Something I have rarely encountered is a man who did not want to make me his woman. Sure it has happened, but only when I was feeling low on myself. It's like they smell it or something. LOL. But the majority of my dating life, men have gone the extra mile to convince me that they are worth being with. So it took me going through a pathetic period to see what other women were experiencing. So what did I do? I stopped being pathetic. And that was short lived.

Now what do you need to do? Stop begging every man to be your man. That's crazy. Honey you are worth more than that. You see a man and don't even know if he's worthy of breathing your air, yet you steady chasing him down and pleading with him to be all yours. He looks at you like you must be crazy, because he knows he's not worth two cents himself.

So yeah...be a prize, not a pushover. Be a banger, not a bust-it-baby. Be a darling, not a doormat. Be a WIFE not a wifey. Be a lady, not an easy lay!