YBBG writing process

My Secret: My book is about my journey.

Several years ago, I decided to write a book. It wasn't to achieve fame or to even have anyone know my name. Quite frankly, I wanted to remain anonymous...unseen...unknown.

These days people may think I am one for the spotlight. I'm not at all. That's why you don't see me in a lot of pictures. Heck, my picture isn't even on or in my latest book. This book isn't about me...it's about acknowledging, dealing, and healing.  I was clearly just a vessel.

Yes, it sounds all sanctified...but not really...but kinda. In the process of me writing this book, I matured. I grew up.  I reconnected with my old self...spiritually, mentally, and physically. I formed this amazing relationship with God that I never realized could exist. It's kinda like I went from just fearing God to befriending God.

A Tomboy's Guide is now available on Amazon and
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Writing about myself was excruciatingly difficult. Uncovering old memories had me in tears which impeded my flow...I started writing this book thinking I was going to tell someone about relationship building...when the truth was...that someone was me.

I became frustrated with writing. I wrote through emotional ups and downs. I wrote everywhere. If I was at church, Panera, or walking around, I would jot down a thought or memorialize a message. I used my phone, napkins, iPad, laptop, business cards, a journal, random pieces of paper, receipts, anything...to carve out chapters.

The look I would give when someone asked if I were
done with the book before it was finished.

Many times, I got frustrated and wanted to quit...but I wrote through encouragement from my brother-friends...who would literally harass me about getting this book together. I got to the point where I was angry that people now expected me to finish this book. What if I didn't want to finish? What if this book was just therapy for me? Maybe I wanted to keep it to myself.

I gained weight while writing. I isolated myself. I got sick with crazy food allergies while writing. I was in a car accident (I wasn't writing...I was paying attention to the road LOL). I dated without committing while writing. I formed bad habits like eating bags of Oreos while writing.

My writing journey went from a mess
to a message. 

Then...I started talking to people while writing. I began hosting events while writing. I wrote articles that received great feedback while writing. I started doing radio while writing. I met knew people while writing. I reconnected with friends while writing. I learned about forgiveness and acceptance while writing. I rebuilt torn relationships while writing. I got over some stuff while writing. I got rid of some fears while writing. I learned to communicate with my loved ones while writing. I acknowledged my own hurts while writing. I discovered that healing was possible while writing. I asked God to use me, while writing. I wrote myself into the person I was born to become...

Ain't that something?


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