How do you make him say "I do"?! Inquiring ladies want to know

Look here! There are women running around here like ticking time bombs.  Their eggs are spoiling and they are tired of trying to hold together twenty year old bodies ten and fifteen years post twenty.  They want and need a man, not now, but RIGHT NOW!  Did y'all hear that? Yep...one just combusted!!


And fellas... ya'll are up here just playing around.  Lollygagging like it is cute to have a 70 year old daddy when you're 10.  Well, I've seen it. And it isn't.  How many times will your child have to hear, "oh is that your granddaddy? He looks good for his age."

So C'mon fellas... What's a girl gotta do to get you down the aisle?  What will it take to get you to proudly say those two little words... "I'm hers!" ummm I mean "I do"?  A very nice lady asked me one day, "What's the secret to getting a man to marry you?"

Well, lets go to the source... gents...speak now or forever hold your peace. (keep reading)

Let's get you started... here's what some of your counterparts had to say:

MA said: It's not about getting someone that's not trying to marry to say I do.  It should be about finding the right one that aligns with God's purpose for your life.  If you find that, you won't have to worry about him asking.

Me: Interesting points, but "ungodly" folks marry all the time.

MA: Are they happy and do they stay?  I quit looking at the world it's a pipe dream that will eff you up.

Me:  Eh I guess. But how many people realistically seek to know God's plan for their lives? As opposed to making plans and praying God goes along with them?

MA:  That was my whole point of a wrong approach. You can't do anything to make a brother say "I do".  He has to first be the type to marry and then feel you not the latter and hope he becomes the former.

Me:  Is there really a type?

MA:  Mostly family guys like me, but you have to be the one for him.

Did you buy that? Hmmm... I dunno...let's see what else the fellas had to say...

LW- There is no answer. Just be you, and if he wants to marry you, he will. Plain and simple.

Me-  Well I told one lady that, and that was not good enough. She wants a formula...so spill it! What's the formula? Hmmm..

LW- Tell her the fact that she feels she NEEDS a formula is a problem in itself! If a MAN is into YOU, and feels you are right for him, he'll have no problem saying "I do." She can try to get a "formula", but that would only work if every man was the same.

Hmmm...let me ask another guy and see what he says...

Me- Hey B! Where's your answer to that question? LOL

BA- LOL! The secret is to be loyal through the male's mistakes and ultimately he will not be able to live without you.  But women should be a good judge of character because some men will always be whorish. Lies will remain lies. Don't let them add up.

Me- "Mistakes" means "wrongdoing"?


BA- Yeah. Slip ups. Drunken moments...bachelor parties...poor judgments.  Let them know they were wrong, but give him a chance to make it up without the situation coming up any time after the initial confrontation.

Me- How many mistakes must she endure?

BA- My opinion is up to 4...3 strikes is in the realm of having a pressured decision so give him another time after the obvious.  It's a lot to endure, but if he is who you truly want you gotta exhaust your options.

Me- I'll say she's a good one if she does.  As for me and my hosue (if I were a cusser I'd say..) H*** **** naw! LOL  The lady who asked the original question (secret to getting him to say "I do")? I don't know what she'd say or how she'd take that.  I'm going to ask her.

BA- OMG her response is gonna be a classic.   Let me also mention if the mistake is repeated, then he is not progressing! That's ground for termination also...

Aight, so that's one for "let him run around and be a whore...then wait on him to come back to you after he's run out." *side eye*







Let me check with someone else...

Me- How do you see it?

KM- Hard question.  Depends on the guy. I think you have to make the man realize that you are the best thing for him.  Men always think about the "what ifs".  What if I meet someone cuter or this or that.  Then there is the love that a man has for his lady.  Then there is the man realize he doesn't want to be in a world without you.

Me- Wow! you were actually serious that time!

KM- I'm always serious :)

Hmmm so the consensus is: Be such a positive force in his life that he feels he cannot live without you... or...you could just get knocked up and have a shotgun wedding :)



Comments

Anonymous said…
Men give off signals when they are interested in marriage in the first place. If he is not 'nesting', e.g. getting a steady job, a decent place with furniture, etc., he ain't trying to get married, period.

Men who are looking to get married stop dating multiple women at once. If he's feeling you for marriage, he'll let you know that he wants the two of you to be exclusive and start asking questions about what you want to do with your life.

If he is not doing ANY of these things (especially not being monogamous with you) then forget it because you can't make a player get married. Move on.

Give a man 6 months and then move on, no matter what you feel about him. Sometimes, sometimes, the fear of losing you (and then actually losing you) makes a man think more seriously, but no guarantee on that. So be prepared to drop him and make sure that he knows what you want and what you will do if you don't get it.
CM said…
Really late response. I included answers from different guys to show that it all boils down to the man you're with.

Different people expect different things in relationships and from people they are with in those relationships. I don't think there is a so called "roadmap" to marriage, but there is an outline.

1. He wants to be married.
2. He wants to marry you.
3. He's willing to get married.

But what are the details??? How do you know he wants to be married? What makes him want marriage? Why you? How you? Is he willing to do it? What are his hesitations, if any?

The details are what matters. And the only person with the details is the one you're trying to be with.

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