Be your own Valentine...uh uhn... don't do that

He's being his own Valentine. Does he look happy? 

Tomorrow is Valentine's (or Valentimes depending on where you are...) Day.  In the past weeks or so, people have scurried to find a Valentine...OR scurried away from the people they were seeing to not have a Valentine.

Last week a lady asked if it was wrong for a woman to send herself Valentine's Day gifts. I found it highly ridiculous to even contemplate doing such.  Who does that?

So I went on the web to see if this foolishness actually existed.  Low and behold all types of "Be Your Own Valentine" madness popped up.  The picture above is from a posting that gives you 8 Steps to being your own Valentine.  Now what that man being in a bubble bath with a rubber ducky on his head has to do with Valentine's Day, I don't know.

Really??? For what?

I remember being in middle and high school on Valentine's Day. It was a HUGE deal. Someone would come hand you a little ticket to go down to the field house to pick up your gift, and you'd walk around school with a crap load of stuff showing off.  If you didn't receive anything, people would look at you with pity.  Clearly the grooming started early.

A guy I dated once refused to cooperate with Valentine's Day. He said that if he doesn't show me how much he appreciates me every day, I shouldn't be with him.  Everything should not hinge on one stupid day.  Especially when that day is for sorry dudes who treat their women poorly throughout the year and then use Valentine's Day to make up for it, and never do anything for the rest of the year.  At the time I felt he was being a sorry so and so.

As I've grown up, I realize he has a point.  For a couple of reasons. Valentines Day is just another commercialized holiday that people have been groomed to yearn for over time. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for celebratory expressions of joy, love, happiness, shopping....whatever.

But your world should not be crushed if you don't have a Valentine...and you definitely should not be compelled to become your own Valentine. I'm sorry...that's the sorriest, most pathetic thing I've ever heard of up to this point. (I'm sure I'll hear more sorry, pathetic foolishness at some point. )

You know...a guy tried to convince me that this is okay for women to do, it shows strength and that a woman is okay with being by herself. O_D Ummm no. Because that heiffa is yearning to be with someone else, that's why she's going through all these outward expressions of anti-loneliness.  Trust, if she were really secure, she would not have to go through all of this.

Some said it is just like dating yourself. AGAIN...who does that? I would like to slap whomever came up with that idea.  But maybe that's just me.  I understand treating yourself, and getting yourself nice things. But dating yourself? So how does this work? Do you bring yourself flowers? Open doors for yourself? Get dolled up and sit at a dinner table for one? Let me tell you something...when I see people who that...I look at you crazy.  MMMMhmmm I do. LOL.  Now don't get me wrong...I understand the premise behind it...and if it works for you...more power to you.  Honestly though...all that time you spend dating yourself, you could work on the inner you so someone would actually want to date you.

Anywhoooo....Valentine's Day is supposed to be for expressions of love from one to another. Not one to oneself.  Cut that out! LOL