He's not my boyfriend, he's my friend



“The friendship that we established early on in our marriage …
that carries you through tough times.
That and a good sense of humor.”— President Obama
You all know how much I love having male friends. There's just not a lot of work when it comes to having a guy friend. LOL. Or so it seems. But wait a minute...that isn't true. It's just that the work is somewhat effortless.

The title of this blog post is kinda wrong...but it speaks to the type of relationship I like having. I like it when the guy I'm with is my friend. It makes the relationship easier. So in essence, he's not just my boyfriend, he's my friend.

Often...too often...people put on airs when it comes to relationships. Everyone wants to send out a representative to select and be selected by potential mates. That is absolutely ridiculous, and partially the reason why many relationships do not last. At some point the ugly truth of who you are will come oozing out and the other person may not like it.

With friends there are no airs. Everything is out in the open. No pretentiousness. Just straight up realness. My friend can see me looking tore up and be cool with it. He can then tell me I look crazy and need to take care of that, without me being offended. But if my boyfriend says that, I may be more than offended or even slightly hurt.

If my friend says, "Hey I need to talk to you about something...", there is no apprehension of relationship ending drama.

With a friend, I am completely myself, and so is he. I'm not concerned about what our last conversation means for our relationship. No matter the ups and downs of our disagreements, we have something that outweighs it all: FRIENDSHIP.

There is such a freedom that comes with completely enjoying the person you're with and not just being lost in la-la love land. In friendships you think, instead of react. In friendship there are no insecurities. In friendship all of who you are is acceptable and accepted. In friendship you don't have to lie to kick it.

In friendship we laugh, we clown, we debate, we argue, but those things are not tied into the judgment of the relationship. The relationship just is, and therefore we are, but one argument doesn't end it. In fact, friendships that survive hardships tend to be even stronger.

That's why I like it when my "boyfriend" (I swear I'm too old to use that word...I like saying guyfriend LOL) is my friend. The relationship is boundless because the friendship laid the foundation for openness, honesty, realness, and fun beyond belief.

What do you think? Is it better that your mate is also your friend? Are you friends with your mate? 



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