Men do not like tomboys

       Did growing up a tomboy mean I would never have my Morris?

  

I remember growing up as a tomboy and running into "girly-girls". They annoyed the heck out of me. One got on my nerves intentionally, I believe.

She would always swear to me that boys would never like me because I was a tomboy, and "boys don't like tomboys". She insisted that boys only liked girls like her, ones who played in makeup and not mud. Her hair was always in place and mine always had a bow missing from playing tag football or swinging from the monkey bars. 

I smelled like sweat and baby powder and she smelled like lavender or some other potpourri. LOL The boys picked me to play on their teams at recess and her to carry her book bag to the bus. 

So was she right? As we grew up would I always be the friend? 

Not really. Though I talk about my homeboys all the time, those were not the only guys who were around. Guys did tend to approach me differently as we grew up. Well some approached me exactly the same way they did her before noticing my "tomboyish" ways. 

They were cool with my loving sports, but not so cool with my having guy friends. They loved my boyish confidence, but hated that I wasn't as emotionally soft as they liked. 

So the tomboy thing with men was a blessing and a curse. So in a sense the girly girl was right...but she was also very wrong.

Growing up as a tomboy gave me access to and understanding of men that I would have never had as a girly-girl. Men tended to treat me as an equal and respect my opinions more. 

I was hardly ever the one pressing for a commitment, and usually didn't give ultimatums. On the flip side the nonchalant attitude always plagued my relationships. I quite frequently just picked up and moved on from a guy I was dating without trying to make it work. My attitude was, "what one won't do, another one will..."

So did men like me? Yes, but I was hard to love... (Read more in the ebook A Tomboy's Guide)