"She's my best friend"

That's what one gentleman I know said about his wife. They spend a lot of time together.  Enjoying the same things and sharing new things together.  I've heard this sentiment repeatedly from guys who were truly dedicated to their wives.



Once you say "I do" do you go your separate ways or
spend a lot of time together?


On the flip, there are some guys I know who didn't think it was necessary to have a friendship with their wives. They usually are the ones I hear complaining. The crazy thing about them is, they feel that they can compartmentalize their lives.

When you marry there are no compartments. It is when everything is bound, bundled, and built into one unit. That's what marriage is about, right?

So wouldn't it be better to have a spouse who you can talk to about anything? Introduce to all parts of your life and who you are? Enjoy your likes and share your dislikes with?

Or do you believe that you can marry someone, and be happy, when you have barely anything in common besides the basics of faith, faithfulness, and dedication to family?

Would you be okay if your partner didn't share some of your passions? Say you're waaaay into sports, and she hates them. So do you know what will happen when you want to spend time at games or playing in a rec league? She will complain. She will nag. She will want you to be with her instead of taking time away to enjoy what you enjoy. However, if she's as into them as you are, you will be able to both take in the games and enjoy time with each other bonding. Heck, she may even post you up a time or two!

What do you think? How much should you and your mate have in common?  Should your mate enjoy the things you enjoy? Would it make your relationship better?

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