When you can't be friends...
Today I started thinking about heartbreak. My worst heartbreak was several years ago and it took me a long time to get over it. One of my homeboys was like, "Suck it up!!!" (you know who you are...). But when he realized it was the love of my life, he was a lot more understsanding (At the time it seemed like he was the love of my life and all...I mean that's the way it seemed...I now realize I haven't met him yet. If I had...we'd still be together LOL) .
So when I had to break the news to one of my friends from college that he and I were finally over. She said "WOW! I just knew y'all would get married..." Gee thanks! *side-eye* Clearly that didn't make the situation better. THAT was not what I needed at the time. *sigh*
That's another thing that guys are good for...being blunt and insensitive when you need to get shaken out of your blues. Instead of reminding you how bad it sucks and sending you deeper into depression like your homegirls may do...though innocently LOL
Anyway...I usually have no problem being friends when things don't work out with me and a guy I've dated. But when you've loved someone so deeply that being friends hurts more than hating each other...you just have to go cold turkey. Right?
Do you all remember this video with R.L. from Next and Deborah Cox? Ever felt this way?
I'm over it now. It took some mending, some healing, some rebound dating, prayer and supplication and meditation and yoga and...well you get the picture! LOL
How do you get over break ups? And are you able to be friends with exes?
So when I had to break the news to one of my friends from college that he and I were finally over. She said "WOW! I just knew y'all would get married..." Gee thanks! *side-eye* Clearly that didn't make the situation better. THAT was not what I needed at the time. *sigh*
That's another thing that guys are good for...being blunt and insensitive when you need to get shaken out of your blues. Instead of reminding you how bad it sucks and sending you deeper into depression like your homegirls may do...though innocently LOL
Anyway...I usually have no problem being friends when things don't work out with me and a guy I've dated. But when you've loved someone so deeply that being friends hurts more than hating each other...you just have to go cold turkey. Right?
Do you all remember this video with R.L. from Next and Deborah Cox? Ever felt this way?
I'm over it now. It took some mending, some healing, some rebound dating, prayer and supplication and meditation and yoga and...well you get the picture! LOL
How do you get over break ups? And are you able to be friends with exes?
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