You can't squeeze him into a relationship.
First I want to shoutout @gripebrothers for inspiring the title of this post.
"Most women decide on the type of relationship they want and then try and squeeze a man into [it]. Cart before the horse."- The Gripe Brothers
Now ladies, I know you're going to get mad at me for this post. But I'm telling you it is for your own good. Let me ask you something, why do you have such a huge problem with dating more than one man at a time? And most importantly, why do you try to make every man you date, THE ONE?
It makes absolutely no sense to me. One of my classmates agrees with me, and offered a little insight as to why many of our sisters refuse to date more than one guy:
I often hear women complain about men not wanting to commit...so much so, it has become a proverbial broken record. Well the truth is, no guy wants to commit to someone who is desperate for a relationship. They can smell you from a mile away. And no guy wants a woman who only wants him to fit like a puzzle piece into her fairytale life.
On a more shallow note, a guy doesn't want someone no one else wants. I'm not saying play games. Nope... I'm saying understand that you have options. And if you took a little time to see what options you have available, you may get a clearer vision of what you want in a man. Do not "play the field" per se, but at least interview multiple candidates.
You should care enough about yourself that you don't hire someone unqualified to the position of the head of your household. It causes a world of heartache and pain. Do you really need that?
Not every man will fit into your ideal conception of a relationship. But if you keep chasing them down and trying to squeeze them into it, you'll remain miserable.
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Now ladies, I know you're going to get mad at me for this post. But I'm telling you it is for your own good. Let me ask you something, why do you have such a huge problem with dating more than one man at a time? And most importantly, why do you try to make every man you date, THE ONE?
It makes absolutely no sense to me. One of my classmates agrees with me, and offered a little insight as to why many of our sisters refuse to date more than one guy:
Don't know why women won't. [I've] seen so many wait around for happiness. I think many believe dating around = sleeping around. SadIs that what it is ladies? Do you feel that dating more than one guy means you must sleep with more than one guy? I mean should you even be sleeping with any guy who isn't committed to you anyway? (But surely I digress...)
--L.B.
I often hear women complain about men not wanting to commit...so much so, it has become a proverbial broken record. Well the truth is, no guy wants to commit to someone who is desperate for a relationship. They can smell you from a mile away. And no guy wants a woman who only wants him to fit like a puzzle piece into her fairytale life.
On a more shallow note, a guy doesn't want someone no one else wants. I'm not saying play games. Nope... I'm saying understand that you have options. And if you took a little time to see what options you have available, you may get a clearer vision of what you want in a man. Do not "play the field" per se, but at least interview multiple candidates.
You should care enough about yourself that you don't hire someone unqualified to the position of the head of your household. It causes a world of heartache and pain. Do you really need that?
Not every man will fit into your ideal conception of a relationship. But if you keep chasing them down and trying to squeeze them into it, you'll remain miserable.
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P.S. Thanks for quoting my tweet. I am honored.