You wouldn't have baby mama drama if...



Ok... this topic gets talked about a lot... Babymama-Babbydaddy drama.  Drama Drama Drama.  Of course last night's episode of The Game on BET brought the conversation back up. 

No one seems to come up with preventative measures to avoid the drama.  Everyone always wants to be reactive instead of PROactive.  

Here's the thing.  We know drama comes when there is instability and heightened emotions.  Couple that with hurt, feelings of abandonment, feelings of being trapped, immaturity, and major shifts in life norms.  Basically people go crazy when things get rocky.

Now you wouldn't have babymama/daddy drama if...

1. You only had children with people who will be good parents: You chose your sex partners more selectively.  How foul is it that some bust down/bum becomes part of your life forever?  So stop procreating inebriated, stuck on stupid, or just plain deep in lust.

2. You put a plan of action in place that aids co-parenting:  You got the preliminaries out of the way.  You know...you called DiNA...Set up a visitation schedule...Got a contract and plan in place to take care of the child.  IN WRITING and NOTARIZED. While you're still on good terms...And follow it.

3.  You know respect and show respect: You communicate with the other parent, respectfully.  Remember there is another life depending on the stability of the other parent.  You treat him/her poorly...it falls on your child.

4. You stopped having sex with each other and cut the relationship part off: You stopped the back and forth with each other. If you aren't finished yet...don't go out... get someone else and then keep coming back for left overs.  Cut that mess out!  All of that instability creates a lot of mixed emotions, hurt feelings, and can trigger bi-polar disorder! LOL...I'm just sayin. If the relationship is over, let it be over.

5. You behaved like an adult and put your children first: You took care of your responsibilities.  Look here...having a child is a huge responsibility.  It may be scary..It may be too much to handle at times... BUT YOU DID IT...Now you gotta take care of it.  That means emotionally, psychologically AND financially.  The baby did not ask to be here.  You can whine and complain to someone else.  But when it comes to your child...chuck it up, man/woman up...and handle your business. 

You know...some people have children with people they are no longer with, and they DO NOT HAVE DRAMA.  They know how to co-parent and they do it well. 

Two authors, Max-Laine and Melanie wrote a book to help alleviate the systemic issues that come from the conflicts single parents face.  They had a lively segment on Power 98 fm this morning! Check out the site http://www.crazybabymamas.com/

"We want to RE-define the concept of being a Crazy Baby Mama."

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