"What Chilli Wants 2" Part I: Chilli speaks on her relationship with Floyd Mayweather, Jr. and THE LIST
Guess what, y'all?! I got an early birthday present. I grew up listening to TLC in middle school (Oooooooh on the TLC Tip) and high school (CrazySexyCool), wearing my clothes baggy, and still being cute at the same time! (Yes...as y'all know I wasn't allowed to listen to secular music...so this is one of the groups I'd hide under the covers and listen to...)
To this day I still find myself singing Damaged from Fanmail and What About Your Friends (I actually used that one in one of the blogs here) from their first album! So yeah, y'all know I was extra hype when my pal, Tam, clued me in on an opportunity to interview Rozonda Chilli Thomas! When Chilli's publicist gave the okay, I almost fell out! :) LOL
Check out Part I of my interview below:
Season 2 of What Chilli Wants premiered on Sunday, January 2nd, and I sat down to talk with Chilli on the phone about what happened with Bill, what's up with her and Floyd, and whether or not she still has the infamous list!
Being the generous person I am, I also asked some of my readers and friends what questions they had for her. Some I didn't get around to. Like my homeboy, who is an actor, asked if she would be his date for the Oscars when he wins one LOL. And another asked why she won't give regular dudes a shot...basically talking about himself.
This is how the convo went:
CM: So my blog is about me being the best friend of guys. That being the case... I know your show is called "What Chilli Wants," but what does Chilli have to offer a mate?
Chilli: Well, I am a nice person. That helps. (she and I laugh) Being nice. I am definitely a godly woman. So I would naturally carry myself in a certain way because of that. I am not the jealous type. I am very straight forward, so you'd never have to wonder what I'm thinking or what I'm feeling about something. I'm not fake. A lot of the things that are on my list, that I want in a guy... Those are also things that I have in me. So that's a lot of what they would get. I'm an honest person.
CM: I know that list has been the bane of contention for Tionna Smalls (the relationship guru) on the show. But I actually see nothing wrong with your list. AT ALL... From the top to the bottom, I think your list is fine. Shooot. I have that list myself.
Chilli: As you should!
(we both laugh)
CM: I think a lot of people are hung up on the list, because they think it is too restrictive and keeping you from finding a man. Is that what you think it is that's preventing you from finding someone?
Chilli: I don't think so at all. I feel like a lot of people, just choose to deal with a lot of craziness in a relationship, just to be in one. And I don't. And because I do not, I think that I save myself from a lot of headaches and unnecessary heartbreaks. I think that happens when you're honest with yourself and when you meet people. More than likely the guy that you meet, even if you like him a lot, you're probably not going to be with him forever. Because whatever the issues that you see in the beginning, when something deep down tells you that you can't deal with it, but you go against the grain, that's the very thing that's going to break you all up. You know what I mean?
CM: I completely understand.
Chilli: So I just think that when people are honest with themselves and find security within themselves to be okay with being alone until you find the right person, then whew the world would just be a better place!
CM: Now THAT I can agree with! Let me ask you this, in the show (season 1) you revealed a lot about yourself and your past. I remember watching the Sally Jesse Rafael show back in the 90s when you met your dad. How do you think your relationship with your father plays into the relationships you've had with men?
Chilli: It doesn't do anything. It hasn't affected me in a negative way at all. Because my mom and my great grandmother, who raised me, my big mama, were such strong women. So I never felt that emptiness from my dad not being around. And I never ever looked to a relationship or for a relationship and a guy to fulfill me in that way. Because I never felt that emptiness. So I just thank God that I had two very strong women in my life so that I didn't feel like that.
So for those of you who asked if she had "daddy issues" she cleared that up for you, then we moved on into the hot topic of this season: Her situation with Floyd "Money "Mayweather, Jr. aka Prettyboy Floyd.
CM: So we see your relationship with Floyd on the show. And everyone is like "What is going on with her and him?" Are you friends are you something else? What's the deal?
Chilli: Well we're definitely friends. And I think that our friendship is a little bit more than a friendship, but it can definitely stay in the friendship realm, because you know...We've never slept together. So you know, I think that for a lot of people, they wonder if you can be friends with somebody for four years and have never slept with him. And I'm telling you yes you can, and he will even tell you, yes you can. Because for me, and I think that had everything to do with my decision. Because I said I'm NOT going to sleep with anyone unless I am in a committed relationship with them. It's not going to be no relationship where we're straddling the fence and all that kinda stuff. Why would I do that then, if it's not where it needs to be? You know what I'm saying?
CM: I totally understand. (and I have tried to tell some of y'all this repeatedly! goodness...you do not have to be a loose booty to keep a dude around... I'm just saying...put your draws back on for a minute :)..ok...sorry...back to the interview...)
Chilli: You can't walk around and say you're somebody's friend and you're just friends if yall are sleeping together. You're NOT just friends then.
CM: I completely agree!! And that's what, as I was telling you earlier, is the premise of my blog. The relationship that I have with guys, where we are just strictly friends. We don't even have the relationship that you and Floyd have, that's kinda flirtatious, at times. We're just like "that's my homeboy." Have you had relationships like that with guys before? Where it's just like "that's my homeboy!" There's no feelings, no romance, no nothing going on?
Chilli: Ummmmm...Yes...yes...there are a couple of guys where I've really been able to be friends with them like that. They're not looking at me that way, and I don't look at them that way. But that's a hard thing, ya know? Usually somebody...I always feel like guys you know like Chris Rock says, they're just waitin'! You know the chick puts them in the friend zone, but they're just waitin' on that one little opening to come in and try to be something more. But when I detect something like that, when I know a guy wants to be more than just my friend, but he's trying to be in the friend zone...I think you should end that friendship because if you don't feel that way, then why continue to be around someone that's checkin for you like that. I don't think that's right.
CM: I do agree with you. I actually wrote about that recently. About having a guy who is strictly your friend. I seriously think it is important to have that happen. I think every woman should have at least one guy friend. It helps you to understand men better. But anyway..back to you and Floyd. Last night on the show, Tionna said that Floyd is a distraction for you. Do you think he is a distraction?? Or is he more like a security blanket?
You'll get Chilli's answer to this question and many more in Part II. Find out what happened with Bill and what Chilli says about a couple of people calling her a gold-digger for accepting $14,000.00 earrings from Floyd.
To this day I still find myself singing Damaged from Fanmail and What About Your Friends (I actually used that one in one of the blogs here) from their first album! So yeah, y'all know I was extra hype when my pal, Tam, clued me in on an opportunity to interview Rozonda Chilli Thomas! When Chilli's publicist gave the okay, I almost fell out! :) LOL
Check out Part I of my interview below:
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| Chilli wearing the earrings Prettyboy Floyd bought her. Photo courtesy of VH1.com |
Being the generous person I am, I also asked some of my readers and friends what questions they had for her. Some I didn't get around to. Like my homeboy, who is an actor, asked if she would be his date for the Oscars when he wins one LOL. And another asked why she won't give regular dudes a shot...basically talking about himself.
This is how the convo went:
CM: So my blog is about me being the best friend of guys. That being the case... I know your show is called "What Chilli Wants," but what does Chilli have to offer a mate?
Chilli: Well, I am a nice person. That helps. (she and I laugh) Being nice. I am definitely a godly woman. So I would naturally carry myself in a certain way because of that. I am not the jealous type. I am very straight forward, so you'd never have to wonder what I'm thinking or what I'm feeling about something. I'm not fake. A lot of the things that are on my list, that I want in a guy... Those are also things that I have in me. So that's a lot of what they would get. I'm an honest person.
CM: I know that list has been the bane of contention for Tionna Smalls (the relationship guru) on the show. But I actually see nothing wrong with your list. AT ALL... From the top to the bottom, I think your list is fine. Shooot. I have that list myself.
Chilli: As you should!
(we both laugh)
CM: I think a lot of people are hung up on the list, because they think it is too restrictive and keeping you from finding a man. Is that what you think it is that's preventing you from finding someone?
Chilli: I don't think so at all. I feel like a lot of people, just choose to deal with a lot of craziness in a relationship, just to be in one. And I don't. And because I do not, I think that I save myself from a lot of headaches and unnecessary heartbreaks. I think that happens when you're honest with yourself and when you meet people. More than likely the guy that you meet, even if you like him a lot, you're probably not going to be with him forever. Because whatever the issues that you see in the beginning, when something deep down tells you that you can't deal with it, but you go against the grain, that's the very thing that's going to break you all up. You know what I mean?
CM: I completely understand.
Chilli: So I just think that when people are honest with themselves and find security within themselves to be okay with being alone until you find the right person, then whew the world would just be a better place!
CM: Now THAT I can agree with! Let me ask you this, in the show (season 1) you revealed a lot about yourself and your past. I remember watching the Sally Jesse Rafael show back in the 90s when you met your dad. How do you think your relationship with your father plays into the relationships you've had with men?
Chilli: It doesn't do anything. It hasn't affected me in a negative way at all. Because my mom and my great grandmother, who raised me, my big mama, were such strong women. So I never felt that emptiness from my dad not being around. And I never ever looked to a relationship or for a relationship and a guy to fulfill me in that way. Because I never felt that emptiness. So I just thank God that I had two very strong women in my life so that I didn't feel like that.
So for those of you who asked if she had "daddy issues" she cleared that up for you, then we moved on into the hot topic of this season: Her situation with Floyd "Money "Mayweather, Jr. aka Prettyboy Floyd.
CM: So we see your relationship with Floyd on the show. And everyone is like "What is going on with her and him?" Are you friends are you something else? What's the deal?
Chilli: Well we're definitely friends. And I think that our friendship is a little bit more than a friendship, but it can definitely stay in the friendship realm, because you know...We've never slept together. So you know, I think that for a lot of people, they wonder if you can be friends with somebody for four years and have never slept with him. And I'm telling you yes you can, and he will even tell you, yes you can. Because for me, and I think that had everything to do with my decision. Because I said I'm NOT going to sleep with anyone unless I am in a committed relationship with them. It's not going to be no relationship where we're straddling the fence and all that kinda stuff. Why would I do that then, if it's not where it needs to be? You know what I'm saying?
CM: I totally understand. (and I have tried to tell some of y'all this repeatedly! goodness...you do not have to be a loose booty to keep a dude around... I'm just saying...put your draws back on for a minute :)..ok...sorry...back to the interview...)
Chilli: You can't walk around and say you're somebody's friend and you're just friends if yall are sleeping together. You're NOT just friends then.
CM: I completely agree!! And that's what, as I was telling you earlier, is the premise of my blog. The relationship that I have with guys, where we are just strictly friends. We don't even have the relationship that you and Floyd have, that's kinda flirtatious, at times. We're just like "that's my homeboy." Have you had relationships like that with guys before? Where it's just like "that's my homeboy!" There's no feelings, no romance, no nothing going on?
Chilli: Ummmmm...Yes...yes...there are a couple of guys where I've really been able to be friends with them like that. They're not looking at me that way, and I don't look at them that way. But that's a hard thing, ya know? Usually somebody...I always feel like guys you know like Chris Rock says, they're just waitin'! You know the chick puts them in the friend zone, but they're just waitin' on that one little opening to come in and try to be something more. But when I detect something like that, when I know a guy wants to be more than just my friend, but he's trying to be in the friend zone...I think you should end that friendship because if you don't feel that way, then why continue to be around someone that's checkin for you like that. I don't think that's right.
CM: I do agree with you. I actually wrote about that recently. About having a guy who is strictly your friend. I seriously think it is important to have that happen. I think every woman should have at least one guy friend. It helps you to understand men better. But anyway..back to you and Floyd. Last night on the show, Tionna said that Floyd is a distraction for you. Do you think he is a distraction?? Or is he more like a security blanket?
You'll get Chilli's answer to this question and many more in Part II. Find out what happened with Bill and what Chilli says about a couple of people calling her a gold-digger for accepting $14,000.00 earrings from Floyd.
Comments
I watched today's show. I knew Floyd Mayweather was nice in the boxing ring, but he's even better at bobbing and weaving her questions. I think Chilli is beautiful, and I think her list is great, but I truly don't understand why she's pressing Floyd so hard for an answer. When a man REALLY likes you, you don't have to press so hard. He'll gladly tell you. But on the same note, she says she'd leave a friend who's waiting for an opening to be more.
Isn't that what Floyd is doing: stringing her a long because he KNOWS if he really tried he could get at her, plus he gets the friendship, too. I believe men and women can be friends, but I don't let my male friends spend $14,000 on earrings or close out theme parks and I definitely don't say I'm on a date with them.
The heart is deceptive, and when you have become so with a person in other ways, you tend to seek that security in romantic ways when you're attracted to him.