Stop pulling the race card



David & Iman Bowie, Heidi Klum and Seal

Look.  We get it. You can date whomever you choose. It makes sense.  Loving vs. Virginia was resolved many decades ago.  Therefore it is quite unnecessary for you to continuously:

1. Bash Black women and say we do not add up to women of other races.

2. Refuse to change your trifling ways because you have "options".

3. Discount legitimate complaints that women have because other women do not have the same complaints.

4. Deny that Black women (on the whole) receive disparate treatment in this society.

So where is all of this coming from? Well, I like to give a fair and balanced assessment on the state of relationships. LOL

Yesterday, when I wrote an article entitled "Are there any eligible men in Charlotte," and blogged "turn off the stank" the issue of women of other races popped up.  White women in particular.  More specifically I was told by two different gents that 1. White women are friendly and Black women aren't.  2. White women changed the game and therefore Black women just have to deal.  (This was about the Eligible Bachelors article...basically saying those guys just don't want Black women anymore.)

And in the blogosphere as well as in regular conversation, this is always the case.  A sista complains about something dealing with dating.  A brotha says "well sucks for you...I got options."  Man please.  Just stop.  Seriously.  I know plenty of White women who don't want you either. 

I honestly try not to blog about interracial relationships, because the same things are said in every blog I have ever seen.  The same things are regurgitated in every article, news piece, book, relationship panel, what have you.

No matter how pretty you try to paint the picture, interracial relationships have issues just like other relationships.  And if you are truly happy dating the rainbow...do that.  Just stop trying to destroy part of the rainbow in the process.

Acknowledge that sistas have actually been hurt.  Acknowledge that some complaints are legit.  Acknowledge that there is healing necessary.  Acknowledge that some of the reactions are bonafide attempts to deal with poor treatment and defend/protect themselves from being repeatedly brutalized. Or don't.  But stop chiming in with your dang angry vitriol all the darn time. And if a sista has ignored you, done you wrong, greeted you with piss and vinegar, instead of sugar and honey.  Say that.  But stop bringing up the inflammatory discourse of "white women do it better." You sound like that Dave Chapelle character, you know the one.

Mind you, I have seen the other side too.  Sistas extolling the virtues of having a man of another race.  Meanwhile, they too are harboring resentment from past relationships with brothas and using their own choices to bash, berate, belittle, and blatantly defame brothas. I'm just plain sick of all of you.  That's all I have to say on the matter. Shut up and be happy. lol

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