To marry or not to marry, that is the question
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| Picture from my coworker's wedding a few years ago. |
Not this little girl. I was soooo not the playing dress up type. I always thought about marriage in a business-wise sense. More like mergers and acquisitions. Ha! Do we have the same CEO (God)? What am I bringing to the table, and what is he bringing? What liabilities might we endure? How do we navigate through this joint venture together with no end game? What would our kids look like?
So unromantic, right?
I often wondered whether or not other people thought the same way I do. So, I do what I always do: Asked the question.
What thoughts go into the decision to marry?
The first person to respond was a guy:
Then others chimed in:
So unromantic, right?
I often wondered whether or not other people thought the same way I do. So, I do what I always do: Asked the question.
What thoughts go into the decision to marry?
The first person to respond was a guy:
Then others chimed in:
- whethor or not u share similar goals and on the same page regarding money, child rearing, dealing w the inlaws
- hmmm..."am i gone hafta kill this mutha in the first 6 years??" lol
- Ahhh, the infamous inlaws. Can in laws really make or break the marriage? Hmmmm.
- A lot.
- Not funny mr. Wright!!!!!
- no, no, really....you know that was funny!
More
- Can i tolerate them for forever? How well do we get along for extended periods? Do we get along with each others family?
- Can she accept mi extreme and sometimes exta behaviors? LOL.. Can she be supportive of mi individual goals and well as our overall goal? Is there Reciprocity?
- The usual stuff we've all talked about and later bashed in terms of more suitable arrangements (in equally important order):
Trust, loyaltly, loving, being in love, stability - mental, financial, etc., health, perspective, being about the romance and about business equally, serving in roles, keeping outside influences out (friends, in-laws, etc.), time management, conflict management, shared vision, ability to lead and to follow when called upon, and many other things. So "a lot" still stands.
Finally
MA: Like does she like me or just wanna run down the isle? Is she currently independent...can she support herself? Does she like kids and can she cook? Is the Lord the head of her life....for real? Is she a prude or laid back? Is she a loyal friend to her friends? Can I trust her? Does she love herself? I could keep going......
The respondents were both married and single. What are your thoughts? What goes into the decision to get married?
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