My brothers, my boys, my homies, my friends...

Photo by M. Adams

The guys I bond with, span the globe. I have a pal from Kenya, one with Thai roots, buddies from Brooklyn and southern gents.  They are younger and older than me.  Black, White, Asian and multi-ethnic.  One of my besties is a military soldier another an actor. I have pals who play professional sports and some who have been stay at home dads.

Many of the views you read here are from them.  And other guys like them.  For some uncanny reason we bond.  And they just tell me stuff.  Rarely have I struggled with men being "trifling" or not wanting to commit. That hasn't really been my existence. So I typically look at men in a positive way.


Some wonder why I don't date them.  Well...I adore good friendships...and "getting a man" was never my priority.  I never have a problem "getting a man". 

And for a long time I didn't want a relationship, so it wasn't really an issue. I had a lot of self examination and "purifying" to do before I really gave my all to relationship building.  Many people don't mind going into a relationship "as is, no warranty".  That is not me! LOL. I prefer building a strong, positive connection, sans UNNECESSARY internal drama and such...When we're strong as people, we can be strong as a unit, and fight together instead of fighting each other.

Anyway...Back to my homies...When I meet guys, I see them as people. Human beings. Someone with something to give the world.  (Granted, when I see one who catches my eye and piques my interest...I am on it! LOL.  Well that's how it used to be... I've grown up now LOL.) 

Usually guys have no problem opening up to me.  We talk about everything.  Feelings.  Emotions.  Life's ups and downs.  Struggles, disappointments, emotions.  Hurts, pains, abuses.  Love, life, family.  And even "female problems". lol

I mean, I can tell my homeboy if I'm having cramps or bloated. And of course I get the "I don't wanna hear that mess..." Then we laugh and carry on.

As you can probably tell.  Friendship is sacred to me. I love understanding people.  And taking time to get to know who they are at the core.  I try not to label people too often.  Because what's on the surface is usually a cover for what's going on inside.  That's probably why I bond so well with guys.  I try to understand them, not put them in a box.