I know you don't like rejection, but...
So last night, I made a post about how women can seem unavailable. One of my homeboys made the comment about how we treat every guy like a hardened criminal.
Well let's address that point. Whereas I agree, we really could work on the approachability quotient...I have to say something in our defense. Guys, I know you don't like rejection, but do you really have to call a chick out of her name or talk about her mama if and when it happens?
I mean sometimes your approach is just jacked the heck up! I'll use myself as an example. I park about a half mile away from work so that I can get at least SOME physical activity in each day lol. One night last winter as I walked to my car, a dude grabs my arm and says "You're so pretty...where you goin'?" So I attempt to jerk my arm away but the summagun has a death grip on me. (Now did this fool really think that was appealing? No boo boo...I see DV court written all over you...no bueno!)
All I did was acknowledge his presence as I walked by. So often as women we shield ourselves from unwanted contact by not even acknowledging you exist as we pass. Why? It is a conditioned response.
I can't tell you how many times I have been called every thang but a Child of God (I used to crack up when my great aunties would use this phrase...) all because I wouldn't give a guy my number.
I have seen women taunted, harassed, and darn near assaulted for rejecting a guy. So forgive us for not recognizing you as a sane person when you in all your good manness approach.
Dudes...just because a woman smiles in your direction, that is not an invite to touch her anywhere besides a hand shake. Just because a woman tells you no, that is not an invite to go all Mel Gibson and start spouting out mess you'll be sorry for later. Just because a woman looks appealing to you, it doesn't mean you get to treat her any kinda way.
That being said, fair is fair. I had the convo with the ladies about being more open and available. I need you fellas to chin-check your brethren for their foolishness!
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Well let's address that point. Whereas I agree, we really could work on the approachability quotient...I have to say something in our defense. Guys, I know you don't like rejection, but do you really have to call a chick out of her name or talk about her mama if and when it happens?
I mean sometimes your approach is just jacked the heck up! I'll use myself as an example. I park about a half mile away from work so that I can get at least SOME physical activity in each day lol. One night last winter as I walked to my car, a dude grabs my arm and says "You're so pretty...where you goin'?" So I attempt to jerk my arm away but the summagun has a death grip on me. (Now did this fool really think that was appealing? No boo boo...I see DV court written all over you...no bueno!)
All I did was acknowledge his presence as I walked by. So often as women we shield ourselves from unwanted contact by not even acknowledging you exist as we pass. Why? It is a conditioned response.
I can't tell you how many times I have been called every thang but a Child of God (I used to crack up when my great aunties would use this phrase...) all because I wouldn't give a guy my number.
I have seen women taunted, harassed, and darn near assaulted for rejecting a guy. So forgive us for not recognizing you as a sane person when you in all your good manness approach.
Dudes...just because a woman smiles in your direction, that is not an invite to touch her anywhere besides a hand shake. Just because a woman tells you no, that is not an invite to go all Mel Gibson and start spouting out mess you'll be sorry for later. Just because a woman looks appealing to you, it doesn't mean you get to treat her any kinda way.
That being said, fair is fair. I had the convo with the ladies about being more open and available. I need you fellas to chin-check your brethren for their foolishness!
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