Warning signs your love may be dangerous


Had a chat with a schoolmate last night about warning signs that a person you're dating may be a little ummm "touched".

There is a really good reason for this conversation, as this month is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

Honestly, think about it... Most people show little glimpses of crazy when you first meet them.  I am an advocate of doing background checks.  That doesn't mean being like the FBI...BUT you really should thoroughly research, probe, and analyze when you meet people.  (Now don't get all crazy doing it...)

SIGNS YOUR BOO MIGHT BE COO COO



#1. Mr(s). Telephone (wo)Man


It can be cute when you spend hours on end talking with your new love interest.  Shoot...it actually feels great!!! So that's not the issue.  The issue is when that person calls you constantly.  If you don't pick up or return a message they dial your phone twenty times in two hours. (mmmm yeah...happened to somebody I know..)

Or... the person plays private detective on your phone.  They crack your code.  Snoop through your text messages.  Get pissed when you do not allow open access to your phone, etc.

Or...you cannot answer the phone without getting the Spanish inquisition.

#2.  I want you all to myself


Sure, when you first get to know each other, you want to be snuggled up and all cuddly.  But at the moment when your s/o gets jealous of you going to visit with your granny or having lunch with your mama...pay attention!  Nobody needs ALL of your attention. And if they require it...you might want to dish out some side-eyes and see you laters...

If that person comes in like a wrecking crew and starts eliminating EVERYONE from your life...you might be on the road to being locked in a cabin in the woods somewhere like that man in Misery...

#3. Fight for your love


I don't know why people think this way...but some folks really feel like it ain't love if someone isn't coming up with a fat lip or stitches.  Huh?!

You know those folks who like that thug lovin' kinda love? That Maybe I Deserve it, put your hand around my throat kinda love.  That Bust Your Windows out your car kinda love. That "Took a Louisville Slugger to both headlights," kinda love...

Ummm yeah... save that for those "Love" songs... That mess should never enter your life.  If he's punching holes in the wall, or she's batting .300 on your windshield... run to your nearest magistrate and don't look back!

#4. Weirdo


Take this however you will... Some things just are not normal.  I remember talking to this guy before who would sit in the dark for no apparent reason.  No, he was not meditating. I mean meditation is fine.  Solitude is great.  But your arse just sitting up in a dark house when you've paid your power bill? That's a bit nutty.

Some stuff just seems wrong when you hear it.  Don't get all geeked and say "oh he/she is eccentric"...naww.. that is not eccentricity that is a mental disorder that they are trying to cover up... Think about it... Yeah.. you know it's true.

#5. Pop ups


If you are out about your day, and BAM, there goes your boo... ok...maybe the first time was a coincidence. But three, four, five times a week, and y'all just HAAAAPPEN to be in the same place at the same time?  Please!


If you get the sneaking suspicion that you're being followed like Orange Juice Jones did his woman in "I saw you"...don't go back to the house. Take your tail somewhere safe!







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