#23 What he said: A conversation with my guy friend






Today's Guy: Dre
How I know him: We're from the same hometown.  
Topic: Settling vs Settling Down

Dre and I sat down to discuss shifting standards and "the list".  I've posted about my list some time ago, after I interviewd Chilli about her show What Chilli Wants.  Well the discussion I had with Dre was quite frank.  It started with us talking about how our lists played out in our dating lives.

Then we got serious about the desire to have a family and to have a good sustainable relationship.  Often, our "shallow" lists do not bode well for our desires to be in successful relationships.  As the saying goes, what looks good to you, may not be good for you.

Something that I realized while editing the video is how much college can skew your reality of available mates. I think college is like a bubble.  I went to an ACC school in an area full of colleges.  That means a large portion of the men I saw were over 6 feet tall, athletic, fairly intelligent and in great shape for a very long time. 

So that skewed my view of what was out there.  I wonder how many other people went through that type of thing.  Dre did, and he explains how it worked for him from a male perspective. 

Then we wind the interview up with a discussion of settling vs settling down.  No one wants to feel that they have settled.  But in order to settle down, you would think your list would have to mature and become more refined.

Check out the video and let us know your ideas on the subject.

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