Guys, why are you not courting ladies anymore?
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The resounding answer I received was: Not in a VERY VERY VERY long time...
Now that's just awful! I know these ladies are out in the dating world. Single and available. I mean, I don't know them personally, so I'm not sure of their dating styles.
Many folks don't know what courting is...so I'll give you a personal example. When I was in law school, this guy courted me. I met him at a comedy show and he made me laugh...no he wasn't a comedian. LOL
Anyway, he asked me about all of the things I liked...which were sports, candles, chocolates etc. We had a love for the same team, which happened to be my alma mater. We went to basketball and football games. And each week, when we'd go out, he'd always bring me chocolate in some form. And I had more candles than the law should have allowed. (I'm sure it was against some fire code...). He called when he said he'd call. He never stayed too late. He didn't try to push up on me or pressure me. If I said I was hungry, he'd bring me food. Yes, it was LIKE THAT. He even baked my birthday cake when I turned 24. I'm not making this up. It was good too! LOL He was, and probably still is, a great guy. I just had no intentions of being in a relationship at that time. AT ALL. So his courting fell at the feet of someone who was only into dating at the time. I was young and really had no idea what courting was...I only had a concept of dating.
Anyway... that is what courting can look like. I'm sure it comes in other forms. Back to the matter at hand. Guys, a lot of women feel like you do not know how to date let alone court these days. It seems to them (yeah...I'm putting it all on them...lol) that you are just in it for hook-ups, booty calls, and whatever you can get and go. From as many you can get it from.
Why is that, if you don't mind my asking. I mean, is courting really for people over 60, as this one guy said? Or is it a lost artform as my guy friend from undergrad expressed in the article? Guys, do you even know how to court these days? Or do you feel the cost vs the benefit is waaaaay too much? Have you ever courted anyone?
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