Traditional men and women vs Modern men and women

I love to cook, but not EVERY day...

My pal over at Mofochronicles.com hit me on Twitter yesterday saying I had missed a great debate about chivalry and courting.  It seems these days that guys really wish women would take on some more traditional roles.  Meaning cooking, taking care of home and nurturing them.

The funny thing is, often those guys want women to take on non-traditional roles too, like paying for dates, being enraptured by sports and hopping on stripper poles. 

So if women are bringing home the bacon, keeping house, dancing on poles, staying in shape, as well as creating fantasy football leagues...what are men doing?

How often do you meet guys these days who know how to fix a flat tire let alone change the oil in a car?  How many open doors and come to your door to pick you up for dates?  How many have you met who do not attempt to sleep with you within a week or two of knowing you?  How many can come by your house and fix a leaky pipe?  They can't cut grass, trim hedges, put together a shelf.  NOTHIN! LOL

I met a guy who does all of the above, and it was quite refreshing to me.  Because it is rare. To be quite honest, I have guy friends who do those things.  But often when I've been out doing these panels and speaking to folks or what not, it is rare to find a guy who even knows where the oil goes or would even touch a car period. LOL

For some reason a few of these "Modern" men would rather pay someone to do all of those things, than to learn how to do them.  Who could blame them? Women repeatedly drag them on shopping excursions, to the spa, and want them to be more chic and less "rough around the edges".  But dang...don't you guys just want to "man up" from time to time? LOL

And in all fairness.  I know plenty of women who know much more about how to order a mixed drink than how to mix ingredients for a down home meal.  They know nothing about keeping house, and could care less about birthing any babies! LOL

So what gives? If we value traditions so much...why do we ignore them for ourselves by running away from them, but require them from someone else?

What do you really want? Someone who honors tradition, or someone who is gungho about being chic and modern?