PSA: Sex does not create a committed relationship

Mila Kunis and Justin Timberlake, "Friends with Benefits"

I hate having to say this, because at this point, I thought people would know.  But just because you lay down with a person does not mean that person now wants to be with you.  I wrote about this in 100 Common Sense Dating Tips (which is available from Blurb.com. Get $10.00 off your purchase with the code BIGTEN).

AND when you lay down with someone, know that feelings and emotions DO become part of the equation.  I don't know who created this fallacy that you could just sleep with someone and not harbor any types of emotions.  Sex has the power to create life and lead to death. Do you really thing your status as a human being will actually shield you from the power it wields? HA! Whatever...

Ladies: If you give up the drawz early on...trust and believe you lose a bargaining chip.  Not that your goodies are a commodity (unless you make it so...), but don't get all surprised that after sleeping with a guy you don't get the same treatment you got before.  This is the rule, there may be exceptions.

Fellas: If you sleep with a woman and she starts getting all emotional, you need to understand.  Don't start calling her crazy or unstable.  Nor is she addicted to you.  You breached a barrier, and that is what you get.

As I spoke with a friend over the weekend, this scenario played out.  He didn't understand why she was "acting crazy".

People need to stop pretending that commitment-less (I'd say marriage-less...but that's just me) sex does not create confusion.  It does!  Over and over and over again.  And then each time it happens they want to act like it is something new.  It wasn't new the first time, and it won't be new the next time.  You just have to deal with the consequences of the decisions you make.  If you don't want those consequences, make different decisions.