What you say, what he hears

This is just a small example....

I LOVE WHEN WOMEN SAY I'M DOING ME, CUZ THAT MEANS THEY HAVE NO PROBLEM F**ING JUST FOR THE FUN OF IT, AND I HAVE A GOOD 4 MONTHS BEFORE I GET ASKED WHERE IS THIS GOING?-- JB

Now this may seem harsh, but I posted this for a few reasons:

1. Sometimes you really do not know what you're putting out there to people, in a seemingly harmless manner. So I wanted you to see how it can be taken by someone else, even if you mean something wholly different.
2. As a PSA to folks who claim they don't know any better when they end up in situations where they give themselves to someone without any type of commitment, and then wonder why they get no commitment.
3. To give light to the way some folks may think of you in your "Negative" state. And how the state of mind you're in can set you up for some foolishness and be used against you.

Now I call this a negative state, because you often hear folks say "I'm doing me" when they come to a point of feeling that they have given their all to some other bodies and got nothing in return.  So they go on this whole "I'm going to do whatever I like, and focus solely on myself, without any rules, logic or consequences." 

You might want to believe that "I'm doing me" is a positive affirmation...but when it comes from a negative place, it surely is not.  And basically it is about to set you up for some foolishness if you come across someone who thinks the way JB thinks in that quote above. 

Depending on who the "HE" is who is hearing what you're saying, you may get met with a certain type of response.  You may get fed "affirmations" that do nothing more than keep you in a state of confusion, self doubt and pity.

A guy who champions you doing something that is really going to hurt you in the long run, is not necessarily the guy you want to give your energy to...and if you so choose to do it anyway... blame yourself.  

With a guy like this...who takes advantage of this situation...he has to also be mindful of how his actions affect other people.  Why? Oh...I'm glad you asked.  Because this guy knows better.  He already knows that he is dealing with a woman who will eventually want more.  But he takes advantage of the situation and then blames her for asking for more later.  It's a trump tight game... Basically he uses your words against you on all ends.  

Well...you said you could handle just having a casual relationship...why are you changing it up now? You knew what it was when we first started kickin' it...Why you wanna get all emotional? You're acting crazy.  Yeah...if I had known you were going to go all stalkerish on me, I would have left you alone.

Now you're thinking you're crazy...Something must be wrong with you... Well...something was wrong at the outset...with both of you. LOL. Pure game... You are not in the matrix...you just got caught in the biggest bull crap trap around.  

Had a friend, who may read this, who found himself in this BCT.  Then he wanted to start calling the chick crazy and stalkerish after she pulled a PU (pop up).  Well to turn this on him... "You knew what it was when y'all started kickin' it.  She already let you know she wanted something more. You shouldn't have gotten into it if you couldn't handle it.  Now you want to act all crazy and emotional..." 

See...it goes both ways.