Résumé Lovers
If you ask a person what makes him/her a good catch and it is followed by:
When you hear a guy start out with: "I'm a good man. I'm a member of an NPHC fraternity. I am a junior executive at a Fortune 500 company, I graduated from XYZ University, I've never been in trouble, and my credit score is 850..." I wager that he does not know much about who he is as a person. His focus has been solely on what people tell him makes a good man.
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Basically they tell you about all of their accomplishments, what they have, how much they make, and nothing about who they are... I call them Résumé Lovers.
They know everything about what it takes to get jobs, accolades and material possessions, but little about relationships, love, and building families.
When you hear a guy start out with: "I'm a good man. I'm a member of an NPHC fraternity. I am a junior executive at a Fortune 500 company, I graduated from XYZ University, I've never been in trouble, and my credit score is 850..." I wager that he does not know much about who he is as a person. His focus has been solely on what people tell him makes a good man.
As for ladies, when you hear a woman say: "I'm a good woman. I have my own house, pay my own bills. I've started my own business. I don't have any baby daddy drama, because I do not have children. I am a leader in my church's Singles' Ministry." Again, she doesn't necessarily have a good grasp on what would make her a good mate.
Certainly these people look great ON PAPER... BUT... Folks who focus on their resumes and accolades don't appeal to someone who is looking for a companion OFF PAPER.
Surely having accomplished some things in life is great!! But knowing why you accomplished them is even better. People want to know the person behind the résumé. Are you compassionate and spiritual? Is that why you joined the Singles' Ministry? Did you work your way through school because you had grit and determination?
How do you handle conflict? What's fun about you? Do you believe in having a family? What are you willing to sacrifice to have and give love? Do you know how to communicate with the opposite sex? How is your breath in the morning? LOL You know... things that make you human, lovable, laughable. Those things are what draw people to you. How big is your heart?
Side note: Let me thank my Law School mate, Othello for inspiring this concept with something he said about a year ago. People look too much at a person's resume to tell them how the person will be in a relationship, when it really doesn't. (paraphrasing...)
Side note: Let me thank my Law School mate, Othello for inspiring this concept with something he said about a year ago. People look too much at a person's resume to tell them how the person will be in a relationship, when it really doesn't. (paraphrasing...)
