Realist vs Idealist
I'm just using the terms "realist" and "idealist" as labels...not actual scientific/clinical definitions. Besides...those terms are less judgmental than the ones I wanted to use...so as to not come off offensive...I changed the introductory language...ha!!
People are different. If you find yourself dealing with someone the opposite of you, how do you deal with it?
What happens when you're a "Realist" and you run into someone who is an "Idealist"? Let me tell you, it can be a tough situation.
Realists seem pessimistic to Idealists. Idealists seem silly to Realists. Realists are practical, logic driven strategic type people. Idealists tend to be sensitive, emotionally driven, fanciful type people.
Realists like to be left to their own thoughts and devices. Idealists like attention and inclusion.
Why am I talking about this? Well...I am a Realist. Which can bug the heck out of Idealists. I will withdraw into my own world without contact with anyone...and be okay with that. I can do without long conversations about nothing. I don't have to see you every day to care about you. I don't see the importance of constant attention. When I finally talk about something, I have given it a whole lot of thought, analysis, and flipped it a million times before I say it. I don't really talk to just hear myself or listen to just hear someone else's voice.
And quite frankly when dealing with Idealists, I get annoyed by the constant need for attention and contact. But that is because I'm not an Idealist. For idealists, constant attention is a reflection of desire for them to be around. That attention being received is affirmation of the connection they have with a person. Idealists see things how they can be. So their visions are often romanticized.
In a sense, Realists pick the most viable seeds, plant the roses and make sure they are in proper soil and being watered. Idealists pick the roses, smell them and put them in nice floral arrangements. Both are necessary for each other.
Realists need idealists to enjoy life. Idealists need realists to plan for life. :)
This was inspired by a conversation I had with a dear friend. We are polar opposites...she is definitely an idealist and all into the sensitivity that comes with it. Me? Ha...not sensitive. I draw guys who tend to be idealists. She draws guys who tend to be realists. So we interpreted for each other last night. It was quite entertaining!
