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Greatest marriage advice ever


Zelmyra and Herbert Fisher, married 86 years. Mr. Fisher
passed away a few months shy of their 87th anniversary. 



Valentine's Day 2010, Herbert and Zelmyra Fisher gave advice on Twitter. At the time, the Craven County, NC couple had been married for 85 years. Mr. Fisher passed away in February 2011. The couple were married for a total of 86 years, working on 87 at the time of Mr. Fisher's passing.  They are in the Guinness Book of World Records! Below is the advice they gave. You have to read from bottom to top, for answers to the 14 questions.

A14 We are both Christians & believe in God.Marriage is a commitment to the Lord.We pray with & for each other every day
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Q14  What's the one thing you have in common that transcends everything else?
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A13 NEVER physically! Agree that it’s okay to disagree, & fight for what really matters. Learn to bend - not break!
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Q13  Is fighting important?
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A12 Remember marriage is not a contest – never keep a score. God has put the two of you together on the same team to win
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Q12  At the end of bad relationship day, what is the most important thing to remind yourselves?
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A11 contd: Zelmyra’s mother helped me with the house and the other children, otherwise I would have lost my mind.
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A11 H: We were apart for 2 months when Z was hospitalized with our 5th child. It was the most difficult time of my life
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Q11  How did you cope when you had to be physically separated for long periods of time?
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A10 The children are grown, so we talk more now. We can enjoy our time on the porch or our rocking chairs - together.
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Q10  Does communicating get easier with time? How do you keep your patience?
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A9 Our legacy: 5 children, 10 grandchildren, 9 great-grandchildren, and 1 great-great grandchild.
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Q9  What is your fondest memory of your 85-year marriage?
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A8 “Everyone who plants a seed & harvests the crop celebrates together” We are individuals, but accomplish more together
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Q8  You got married very young – how did u both manage to grow as individuals yet not grow apart as a couple?
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A7 H: I said that I was going to cook dinner for her & she could relax - the look on her face & clean plate made my day!
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A7 Z I cook dinner EVERY day.Herbert left work early & surprised me – he cooked dinner for me! He is a VERY good cook!
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Q7  What is your best Valentine’s Day memory?
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A6 A hard worker & good provider.The 1920s were hard,but Herbert wanted & provided the best for us.I married a good man!
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Q6  What are the most important attributes of a good spouse?
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A5 Respect, support & communicate with each other.Be faithful, honest & true.Love each other with ALL of your heart
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Q5  What was the best piece of marriage advice you ever received?
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A4 Zelmyra: Mine was just around the corner!He is never too far away, so keep the faith - when you meet him, you’ll know
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Q4  What is your advice to someone who is trying to keep the faith that Mr. Right is really out there?
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A3 We wouldn't change a thing.There’s no secret to our marriage, we just did what was needed for each other & our family
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Q3  Is there anything you would do differently after more than 80 years of marriage?
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A2 We grew up together & were best friends before we married. A friend is for life - our marriage has lasted a lifetime
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Q2  How did you know your spouse was the right one for you?
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A1 With each day that passed, our relationship was more solid and secure.Divorce was NEVER an option - or even a thought
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Q1  What made you realize that you could spend the rest of your lives together? Were you scared at all?
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