No sugarcoating


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I'm an in your face type of person, when it comes to speaking the truth as I see it.  Everyone knows it.  I don't speak in hushed tones based on who is in the room.  I won't back stab you.  If any stabbing (proverbial of course) occurs on my part, then I want you to know it came from me, so there will be no questions about it later.

I am open about my views, but compassionate toward people.  Anyone will tell you that.  Sympathetic? No. Compassionate? Yes.

Racial issues, is one of my bigger struggles. For many reasons. I've revealed most of them here.  I love people in general. But I do feel a kinship with certain folks based on my own categories, you know the boxes I check.  LOL.  As do most people, if they are honest with you. If I talk about racial issues, I discuss them with people who are not of my race. In the same way that I speak to people who are of my race. Why? Because I want contrasting views and understanding.  Rawness breeds honesty.  I want to be honest with you, and you with me.

If I talk about religious issues, I talk to people of varying religions instead of just speaking to other Christians. If I want to talk about things of sexual orientation, I talk to people who aren't heterosexual, so I can understand their perspective.  In the end, we don't have to agree, and I can still have compassion for you, even more now, knowing where you're coming from.

Oftentimes, my thought processes put me in the position of mediator. But I'm not a sweet mediator, I tend to make everyone feel bad about themselves, so that they can see things from the other person's perspective.  I make people uncomfortable.  Discomfort does two things. 1. It strips away facades. 2. It pushes people to humble themselves.

Humility.  It is something I've had to learn myself.  Honesty. Something I've never had a problem with.  Just remember, honesty is on another level.  It isn't just "not lying" or "telling the truth".  It is opening wounds, showing biases, being transparent, and opening up.  That's honesty.

The only way there will ever be any type of peace is for people to be honest and humble.

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