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Are you dating Felicia from Friday?

"When you gonna get my hair done?"

Has a woman ever asked you that?

What about... "I need a little something to go in my got me?"

My homeboy let me know that some women are out there shaking men down for money and making no qualms about it.

My thoughts were: What kind of broke down hoodrat does that?  She MUST be a hoodrat or bonafide gold digger..and you need to do better.

Then I had to think about that thing... Do women really do that? Ask men they are casually dating, or just getting to know, for money?

I've heard of women hitting men up for trinkets and five star dining and the like.  (Which to me is equally tacky and trifling.) But to blatantly ask for money?  REALLY?!

The mere thought of it, had me pull out my favorite movie of all time: FRIDAY! I could only imagine a beggin' chick like Felicia doing some foolishness like that.

However, I also remembered when I dated a guy while I was in law school.  He called me one day, asking what I was doing for lunch.  I told him I was fixing some lunch at home.  He asked if that was what I really wanted for lunch, and if I could have whatever I wanted, what would it be? I told him, and he brought it over.

That was cute and courting fine.  But it turned me off when I went to hug him goodbye and he tried to slip a wad of cash in my hand.  I pulled back and asked what the heck he was doing.  He said that since I was in school, and he was working, he figured he could help me out. I didn't think about even accepting the money. My mama always told me that taking money from a man, who is not my daddy or husband, would come with strings attached.

Maybe other women never got that lesson?  I don't know.  Apparently some women have no problem letting a guy know she is another bill that he needs to pay, on time...

How does a conversation  like that even take place? And with someone you barely know, no less? Guys, do women really hit you up for what's in your pockets? Or is this a rare occurrence?


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