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Dear Royce: Daddy knows best

Royce in the middle of a fight with her dad.

I hate to say it, but I was drawn back into the train wreck that is Basketball Wives. I have no excuse...but I'm going to try to focus on what ever good point I can.

A shining light in this show is Royce Reed's father. I like him. He seems like a serious, for real daddy.

Royce's dad feels she needs to grow up and he let her know that.  She clearly gets in her feelings and overly emotional. She keeps falling in love.  I don't know how people do that, but after talking with some of my gal pals, I guess I understand.  Some ladies choose to solely focus on getting to know one guy, and riding that thang on out until the end.  (I laugh at my on colloquialisms sometimes...)

I mean it takes a lot for me to fall, but when I fall. I FALL!!! On the flip, I am not opposed to dating multiple guys in order to decide who I want to be with.  Some women fall for the first thing smokin'.

Royce seems like that type. Which goes to show that even having a daddy in home doesn't automatically initiate great decision-making. Royce's father had a conversation with her, that my own pop had with me once.

I was in high school and in "puppy love" with a guy who was only a couple of years older than me. My pop had a strict rule: No boys until you're COMPLETELY done with school. So if you planned on getting any JDs, PhDs, MDs or were doing it sans a love of your life. Ha!

I remember sitting in the floor of our living room, telling my dad that I Lovededed this guy I was dating.  He looked at me with the most serious face I have ever seen and said, "Love?! Love??? You don't even know what love is..."

As I think back NOW...he was right.  I didn't know what love was...and quite frankly didn't realize what it was until over a decade later.  Whew...rude awakening!

Anyway, Royce's daddy is only looking out for her best interest. She probably will come to a cold harsh realization about relationships, after all the texting scandals with her man, Dezmon. Or maybe not.  She should though, because as her father stated, there is an innocent child who is in the mix of her "love" spells.

Tonight, Royce said she just needed a hug from her dad. That is actually a key point, and may explain why she keeps seeking love and validation from the guys she falls for, dad may have lacked in the affection department.  Men sometimes don't realize how much affection children need. One thing Royce should know is that her father will probably be there no matter how many times she gets hurt.


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