Bad co-parents: Jermichael Finley and his 'babymama'
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| Chelsie Bellisle (left from Twitter) and Jermichael Finley, have a young son. |
According to Deadspin, Jermichael Finley's son's mother went on a Twitter rant accusing him of cheating on his wife, not paying child support, and breaking her phone when she tried to snap a pic of him cheating. You can read her tweets here.
Where did all of these hotblooded rants come from? Well according to Bellisle, Finley missed ONE child support payment.
@ChelsieLovely How does he get away wo paying? Can't they garner his wages?
DBess 
its Chelsie love According to Bellisle it took seven attempts to get Finley to take a paternity test for her son.
People have been following me on here for years. theyve been knowing whats going on since Jermichael missed the first 7 DNA tests.
— its Chelsie love (@ChelsieLovely) April 22, 2013
Bellisle became upset after Finley announced he would donate $500.00 to a Boston charity for each touchdown and dropped pass he records this season. Finley just signed a new contract with Greenbay for about $15,000,000.00.
That's the background, let's get to the issue: CO-PARENTING
Co-parenting is a term coined for parenting together while living apart. It often comes up in family law matters where the attorneys actually care about the families and specifically the children. Frankly, it is something I champion with clients all the time.
You have to figure out how to get along for the sake of your child, who did not ask to be here. Although Bellisle found supporters on Twitter, what she did was not for the sake of her child. Want to know how I came to that conclusion?
Good co-parenting
- If you have a child with a person, your concern is your child and only your child.
- You work with the other parent to handle disputes in private, so as not to bring harm or embarrassment to any party.
- When one parent acts out of sorts, the other parent has to be the bigger person in order to reign the situation back in.
- Minor inconveniences should never become major blow ups.
- Outside of the impact on your child, the other parent's relationships are none of your concern.
Bellisle claimed to go on this rant for the protection and support of her child. Most of what she ranted about was Finley allegedly cheating on his spouse, who is not her. Bellisle claims Finley has another woman pregnant, was caught out with a different woman, whom she snapped a pic of, and then Finley allegedly broke her phone to hide the evidence. If Finley is cheating on his wife, Courtney, that is between the two of them. Bellisle's relationship with Finley should strictly concern their child together.
Bellisle went off because Finley did not pay support this month. Now, who knows what came first? I have a sneaking suspicion that when Bellisle tried to snap a picture of Finley cheating, he decided to get her back by not paying support. I could be wrong, but it seems plausible.
Which goes to #3 on the list. Everybody cannot act up in a situation where your child is concerned. It breeds bad blood, and someone has to be an adult about it. If Finley is cheating and Bellisle threatened to expose him, he could have been the bigger person. Handle your business like a man and deal with the consequences. Allegedly breaking her phone to hide the evidence was not the way to go.
Then too, not paying support as a way to get back at her was a punk move. The money should be for your child. You decided to seed her up...this is the consequence of that action. SOME guys employ the ridiculous logic that sexing a chick who you would not consider even worthy of being a girlfriend, let alone a wife, is okay. WELP! This is the result.
Then you have women like Bellisle who feel that "baby mama" is actually a position of authority in a man's life, and take it to a level of ignorant proportions. You are not his wife, you have no say in his life, you are not someone he has to answer to. You chose to become a "BABY MAMA" instead of becoming a wife and/or mother of his child. (There is a gross difference between a "baby mama" and a mother of someone's child.)
As a society, we have to stop rewarding ignorance. This mess here?? IGNORANCE PERSONIFIED! Bellisle clearly does not realize that when she messes with Finley's brand with all of this ranting and raving, she's messing with wealth created that her child has a stake in for his future.
These women with children by professional athletes can learn a thing or two from women like Juanita Vanoy (formerly Jordan), you can handle your business like a lady, and make sure your children reap the benefits of your sacrifice. When you choose to be with an unfaithful man, you already sacrifice your dignity and self respect....why not make some sacrifices for your children and allow their fathers to be great so they can reap good things, from the bad things he has sown?
No, I am not letting Finley off the hook. He bears the greatest amount of responsibility for spreading his seed around like cheap fertilizer. In this life you have to choose wisely when creating families because your legacy could easily become a tragedy. You are a man, not a boy. Do man things. Stop being led by your hormones and dig deeper into what it means to be a pillar of society. We have enough raggamuffins running around creating crumbsnatchers... Do better!
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