Five things women have forgotten how to do

One of my colleagues told me I have a bias for twig and berries aka men. So when you read this, try to do so with an open mind and an open heart. Yes, I do love men. But my love for men does not become disdain for women.

I have great female friends. A couple I've had for over twenty years. So keep this in mind as I write this...ha!

Five Things Women Have Forgotten How To Do:


1.  DRESS

I see hundreds of YouTube videos with all of these fashionistas with great tips on how to dress for your size, body, and age. Some of you gals should really tune in. Not everything is for everybody. And there is such a thing as showing too much. Some of y'all are out of hand!

For instance, if you're going to show leg, your top should be covered and vice versa. It's just a rule of thumb for looking decent and alluring at the same time. Back in the day, your mamas, grannies, and aunties could snag a suitor and still have all their clothes on.

2.  LISTEN

Frankly, I don't know if women ever quite picked up this little trait. LOL. No offense. We love to chatter, but some of us chatter too much and miss out on important information. NEWSFLASH-Men want to be heard!

It may take a lot to keep your lips zipped sometimes, but if you really want to know how a man is feeling and what he's going through...Shut up and listen!

3.  ACT LIKE LADIES

I know, you're grown and you can do what you like and what ya feel. But come on. You don't have to try any and everything to prove that you're young, wild and free. Some things should be left for other people to do, and you to witness. 

There is a pleasantry that comes with being a lady, men tend to treat you in like manner. So learn how to behave with some common sense. It isn't hard to say thank you to a guy who extends an open door, or to smile politely when a person pays you a compliment. 

Nor is it difficult to go out, have a good time, and not end up on World Star Hip Hop or some other site for acting a fool. Also, know how to treat a guy with respect and show some chivalry towards him. 

If he's coming by to help you out with something, there's no harm in stirring him up a hot plate or fixing him a cool beverage. (If one of my exes is reading this, he's probably thinking... WHO THE HECK IS THIS WOMAN?!)  It doesn't minimize your position as a "strong woman", it may just soften the both of you up to being able to work together as a strong couple.

4.  SUPPORT AND ENCOURAGE

This is something men complain about all the time. It is difficult to support someone who is in a constant struggle, I know. And sometimes the support seems to weigh the both of you down. The thing is, you have to choose to be with someone who is worthy of your support.

Every dream isn't a vision, nor is every dream a pipe dream. Some guys are worth seeing through a difficult time. Those are the ones you should support and encourage. If he's struggling to get his business off the ground, and it is legit, don't be so quick to tell him to stop. Get in the trenches with him. You may build a Fortune 500 together. (Just make sure you have a contract in place LOL)

Be quick to encourage a guy all the time. Not just when he's down. Just like you want to hear how much he cares, he would like to hear the same from you. Just in a slightly less mushy way.

5.  HAVE FUN 

I know Beyonce told you that girls run the world, but think more Cyndi Lauper and just have fun. Women are making strides in the corporate world, business world, and in a myriad of industries period. But sometimes you have to let go and cut a fool. (In a respectable manner...)

It is okay to get out and do things without worrying about the office, your bottom line, or what you have to do tomorrow. You can make time to do silly stuff. It's getting warm, let your hair get wet sometimes! 

Try something new with a new guy or your old guy. Get back to the things you liked to do when you were little. Something that makes you laugh. Anything that will lighten your load and show your fun side will be great. 

If you don't have a guy, find, mix and mingle with coed functions. Going out with just your girls all the time, ain't it! 

Anyway, don't worry. I also did a similar post for guys. Check it out: "Five Things Guys Have Forgotten How to do".



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