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Love and blind trust


I believe that love and trust are one in the same. I don't think you could truly love somebody unless you trust 'em. That blind trust, that beyond a shadow of a doubt. No matter what this person saying or that person. You believe your man. Now you say you love me, but every time one of your little friends come at you with something, we gotta do this...

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If someone brings you news about your significant other. Whose version of the news would you be more likely to believe? Your mate or the other person? Why?
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  • Mate. Innocent until PROVEN GUILTY comes with the license.

    Now if we are dating I am going to have some thoughts but, I would probably lean toward innocent depending on the source. Who wants to date or marry someone you don't trust. 

    If you think it is true because you know their habits and what they like, IT IS. With a husabnd you should be willing to find out why. Male friend, ditch and move on.
  • Depends on who told me. I know some very impartial people.
  • Depends...negroes be lyin
  • I'd be inclined to believe my mates. However, the issue is presented....I want to know WHY...
  • There are always many sides of a story, I would seek the truth.

Trusting someone is difficult when you have a reserve of mistrust already built up. Often people do not trust their mates based on past disappointments from other people. Can you really nestle comfortably in a relationship with a person when you do not trust him or her? 

Constantly keeping tabs on someone has to take the joy out of a relationship. I've heard women say that they have to have access to a man's passwords to his phone, bank accounts, and pretty much all access to his life. The funny thing is...I've heard guys say the same things. They do random pop ups, phone calls to see where you are and where you've been...whew lawdy

Now...if that makes you comfortable...by all means...do what you gotta do. But as for me and my house... won't be none of that. It is crazy to me.

Shoot...I dealt with someone who had to do the check in. I realize now, as does he, that it was because he was insecure about past issues. Granted, I did not make it any better with my boldly disconnected and independent attitude.

I do not answer to anybody but God, was my motto. As I have matured, I realized that does not work well in a relationship. Trust me on this. LOL. People want to feel connected. So in order to build that connection, you have to..well...connect!

Still, I am not okay with the overabundance of insecurities, spying and snooping. It is too much.

Something I have learned, however, is you cannot perceive another person's life through the lenses of your own. So if a person needs reassurances to keep their relationship going, and that person's mate is okay with it: Live and let live.

I do not understand it. I do not operate that way, but plenty of people do. The way I see it is: If you have to keep tabs, there is no trust. And if there is no trust, then love is a far away thing as well.

The question many people have is: When should you give 100% trust? 

 For me, it has to be there at the start of the relationship. Not in the "getting to know you phase", but when you decide to commit. You should have already been through the tests an trials of establishing a bond before you commit.

What do you think?

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