Fraternity's rape survey is not a joke
I am a person with a morbid sense of humor. I will joke about some of everything. I can find levity in somber situations. However...I do draw the line with abuse of any kind.
These frat boys at the University of Vermont, Sigma Phi Epsilon, decided to do a survey on who they would most likely RAPE. Not have sex with. Not carry on a torrid affair...but RAPE.
A lady I posted here about before, Dani the Poet, has a poem about victim sex being the greatest sex. She wrote it after overhearing two grown men talk about the thrill of having sex with an unwilling participant. Oh...not a woman who was just being coy. But a woman who says no, and then the fear of what is about to happen to her creeps into her eyes. Oh you think this is tragic? You believe it is an anomaly?
It isn't. When I was in college I heard about it happening to a young lady. The guy happened to be in a fraternity. No one treated him any differently...but she was ostracized. Am I saying that all frat boys rape people? HECK NO!
Am I saying that joking about doing so makes it easier on a dude's conscience who would? YES I AM.
Some guys don't even know what rape is. Some feel that it is just overcoming a woman's inhibitions. "No" is only "no" until it becomes maybe and then it becomes yes. But the issue is a woman never has to say yes, for it to be yes to some guys. She can say No. PLEASE DON'T. STOP. I DON'T WANT TO. Scream HELP...and a person who chooses to do what he feels he wants to do will continue on. Then behave as though it never happened.
(I just came across this article on Jezebel.com. Can you tell the difference between comments from a rapist and comments from a men's magazine? http://jezebel.com/5866602/can-you-tell-the-difference-between-a-mens-magazine-and-a-rapist)
Why?
He didn't beat her. Rapists are strangers. She was there. Maybe they had been close before. Maybe even intimate. Or maybe she was enticing or a "tease". It was her fault. She knew she turned him on. She would have done so willingly and just needed a little push.
Yeah...all a load of BS. When it happens, it makes it hard to trust anyone. And the victim's life is halted either for a short time or forever. In college 2/5 women are sexually assaulted at some point in their college career.
Anyway, here's the report from CNN:
