Give me more
Being okay is not enough. Having what you need is not sufficient. Just alright is nowhere near it. We all want more. Just surviving is not nearly living. There is so much more.
As I watched an episode of Divorce Court with Judge Lynn Toler, she said something that pierced me. A wife was told that she deserved more than to just be alright. She deserved to be comforted, protected, and to be secure. I couldn't find the whole clip, but it was from this episode on November 16th.
Judge Toler basically told her that just enough was not nearly enough. You can be happy and not just getting by. You can be fulfilled and not just making do.
How many of you know that? Personally, I'm an un-confessed worrier. I don't worry about me at all...because "I'm alright". I worry about other people.
I try not to ask for anything from most people, because "I'll make do." If I need anything, I'll either try to find a way to get it myself or tell someone who won't consider it a burden.
Do you do those things? Have you become a sacrificial lamb in your life? You know it does not serve any purpose at all, don't you?
I never quite got the women who played the damsel in distress role. Always whimpering, crying, and asking somebody else to do for them what they could easily do for themselves. Seriously didn't get it. But then I realize the necessity of it. My homeboys have been my virtual "knights in shining armor", but even they are only called at the last possible minute, when I can absolutely not do it myself. LOL
The only reason I call them is because they already have secured spots in my life. Last night I had a chat with one of my best friends. She basically told me to stop and smell the roses. That's a major step for me. But it is a necessary component of letting go and enjoying life. My mama and homeboys keep saying the same thing...So everyone isn't telling the same lie! LOL
If you are that person (man or woman) who feels like you have to sacrifice yourself for everyone else...STOP! You can lean on other people, work through the vulnerabilities, give someone a shot at being there for you.
