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DAY 11 DV AWARENESS: Take your time


The Supremes said it best "You can't hurry love...you just have to wait..."

Here's the thing. Most folks love love and want it in abundance. There are many who seek to find love at all cost.

🎶 I need love, love
To ease my mind
I need to find, find someone to call mine
But mama said
You can't hurry love
No, you just have to wait
She said love don't come easy
It's a game of give and take🎶
If you believe that finding a romantic partner will solve all of your problems, you are sorely mistaken. As a matter of fact, wanting someone to rescue you from your problems may only compound them. Everyone coming in a cape ain't a super hero...villains wear capes too. 
🎶You can't hurry love
No, you just have to wait
You got to trust, give it time
No matter how long it takes🎶
Love won't necessarily find you when you're the most hungry for it. Good love takes time to materialize. You know it takes some natural and spiritual forces working together to make that thang right! Jumping into it prematurely might mess you up. 
🎶  But how many heartaches
Must I stand before I find a love
To let me live again
Right now the only thing
That keeps me hangin' on
When I feel my strength, yeah
It's almost gone
I remember mama said: 
Let me tell you something...jumping into love immediately after you've experienced heartache will have you all jacked up. Your eyes will see attraction that isn't there. Your ears will hear words that haven't been spoken. Your mind will totally play tricks on you and once you awaken from your fog, you won't know what has happened. 
🎶You can't hurry love
No, you just have to wait
She said love don't come easy
It's a game of give and take🎶
Remember, just because you're yearning for love doesn't mean the person you run into is living the same life moving at the same pace. You may be chomping at the bit, and he or she may be moving nice and slow. You have to understand that love is a two party system, and the other party has just as much say in how things are going as you do. 
🎶How long must I wait
How much more can I take
Before loneliness will cause my heart
Heart to break?
🎶
If you cannot be happy by yourself, how do you expect someone to be happy with you? Trade that loneliness feeling in for some self reflection and self examination time. You don't want to meet your potential love as a whole hot mess. Pull yourself together and be ready so you don't have to get ready. 
🎶No I can't bear to live my life alone
I grow impatient for a love to call my own
But when I feel that I, I can't go on
These precious words keeps me hangin' on
I remember mama said
:🎶
Trust me, you're stronger and more dope than you realize! You are actually a prize being made even more wonderful as you anticipate love coming your way. Don't be fooled by the length of time it takes, the wait just makes it more worth it. 
🎶You can't hurry love
No, you just have to wait
She said love don't come easy
It's a game of give and take
You can't hurry love
No, you just have to wait
She said trust, give it time
No matter how long it takes🎶
While you're preparing yourself, mentally, spiritually, physically and emotionally, trust that your potential love is somewhere doing the same. Good love is not a flash in the pan. Good love is seasoned, vested and mature. That everlasting kind of love takes some patience and endurance...so hold on and be ready.
🎶No, love, love don't come easy
But I keep on waiting
Anticipating for that soft voice
To talk to me at night
For some tender arms
To hold me tight
I keep waiting
I keep on waiting
But it ain't easy
It ain't easy
But mama said:🎶
Now is it starting to sink in? Everything worth having is worth waiting for. Your true and good love will be worth all of the ups and downs you've experienced before...just trust, have faith, pray through it and give it time. 
🎶You can't hurry love
No, you just have to wait
She said to trust, give it time
No matter how long it takes
You can't hurry love
No, you just have to wait
She said love don't come easy
It's a game of give and take🎶

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